You can become a CEO! Ha Ha.
With other males, I have discussed the control methods employed by women, and males agree that they don’t mind being ‘under the thumb’ of a female. They don’t mind working day and night to provide for a wife and children, provided they are treated fairly and not disrespected.
The maintenance of a relationship using traditional procedures involves using the clever female skills sometimes called a sixth sense. Women think men a dumb because they don't understand this sixth sense. Men think women are dumb because women dont operate on the same bandwidth of logic as men.
The creation of a relationship has become significantly more difficult in recent years. I often say to girls: “The easiest thing for you to do in life is to pass exams and get a job — the tables have been tipped in your direction. The difficult task for you will be to find a man that is prepared to marry you.” As a girl, you will easily find a job and work in it until you are sixty-five. You will not easily find a male to marry you. You will easily find a man to have sex with you. You can have any number of them. You can have a different one each day, if you wish, with little effort. You can have more than one each day. You have been thoroughly told that: “It is your body. You can do what you like with it.” This translates to: “It is your body. You can screw whoever you want.” You can start at eighteen and bed a new man each weekend. But there are consequences. When you get to twenty-three and think: “Oh, I pick up men easily. Now I shall find one and marry him.” Uh oh! It does not work like that. The males at twenty-three tell me that: “Andy. If they have been sleeping around, you can sniff it out.” They generally agree that there is no way they could commit to such a girl. Today, he might be male one-hundred out of one-hundred, but tomorrow he might be one-hundred out of one-hundred-and-one. She slept with another man the very next night. He knows that it is not wise to invest his heart in a girl that may be in some other man’s bed the next night. He is not going to put his life’s effort into a girl that might disappear tomorrow.
Finding a male to marry you is difficult and getting worse as males are becoming risk-averse to marriage. Girls have been told: “You can do whatever you want.” The spin doctors were not referring to holidays, nor relaxation time, nor free time with the children, they were referring to work. You could do whatever you wanted — providing it was what the spin doctors wanted you to do — which was to join the corporate workforce. The spin doctors gave women a choice between work, work or work. Women were told: zzz"Women can do anything."zzz which translates as zzz"We demand that women join our corporate workforce."zzz
You have been told: “Career first. Marriage later.” Unfortunately, it doesn’t work very well that way. Female attractiveness decreases with time whilst male attractiveness increases. Female psychology changes between eighteen and twenty-eight. Finding boyfriends at eighteen is far easier than finding boyfriends at twenty-eight. Female psychology changes significantly between eighteen and twenty-eight. Your advice should be worded: “Family first. Career later.” Welcome to the disaster. You have been told that: “Men have been oppressing females.” Males have always revered women. Men love an adore women. The Taj Mahal was built for a woman. There is nothing more wondrous to a male than a woman. There is nothing more beautiful to a man than a woman. Men have happily worked their whole life to provide for a female and a family. It was mothers that taught them this. Women taught males that women were supreme. Women taught them that man worked for woman, not the other way around. You have been told that “Men have taken all the good jobs.” Men didn’t want the jobs in the first place. Work is not natural to a man. Laziness is natural to a man. Man will sit around and do nothing if he is given a chance. Man’s natural state is to be lazy and cause trouble. That is what the young males are doing now when playing computer games. Men did not want the jobs in the first place. They were told by their mothers and others that that was their role and they are dutifully fulfilling their role. You have also been told that: “You can be freed from the kitchen and get a job working in a factory or an office.” However, ‘working in an office’ is not freedom. It is the opposite of freedom. Nor is a kitchen equivalent to oppression. The kitchen has no boss giving orders and no time clock. In the kitchen, you can sing and do as you wish, when you wish. You can have friends around every day or you can go out when you please. Work has a severe time constraint. Women sat at their factory sewing machines thinking about their children and being at home.
Males are prepared to marry, but are not currently incentivized to do so. There are alternatives available that are more attractive than the rejection they receive when talking to many a modern female. If they work out how to survive that barrier, they are put off by the lousy survival rate of marriages. Marriage maintenance is a forgotten skill. An argumentative climate has been created by those that pushed the ‘rights’ agenda.
Married couples degenerate into a verbal battle of individuals rather than an emotionally uplifting system of support where the individuals caring for each other create something greater than the sum of two individuals. In a marriage, ‘A’ looks after ‘B’ and ‘B’ looks after ‘A’ and the sum total is greater than the sum of A and B.
The traditions of the creation of a marriage to the point where the male gets onto his knees and grovelingly asks the girl to marry him, are important to you. From that point, he becomes responsible for provisioning you and woe betide if he fails to do so. Society was very harsh on a male that did not 'provide'. The traditions for the maintenance of a marriage are also important to you. You do not want your slave to run away. He will enjoy his social standing in society as a good husband which means he provisions, protects, and cares for his wife. This is a marriage that is beneficial and uplifting to both and beneficial to society as a whole. It is beneficial in that it harnesses the male’s productive effort to a family and society.
Even the definition of manliness is defined in terms of what is useful to a woman. “He is a ‘real man’.” = He looks after his woman. “He is a gentleman” = He cares for his woman. “He is romantic” = He grovels to his woman. Under the sexual revolution, a male might consider ‘manliness’ to be equated with how many women he has fucked. The statement to women: “It is your body.” is translated into man-speak as: “It is my penis. I’ll fuck who I want.” This is not to the benefit of the average woman. Under promiscuity, women can find any number of ‘fuck-buddies’, but no husbands.
Before the spin doctors of the sexual revolution told women to open their legs, men could not be promiscuous because no girl would say: “Yes”. It is the woman’s “Yes” that has caused male promiscuity.
Unfortunately, men are now seeing through the lie. Enterprising males have escaped family servitude and are taking advantage of the situation and bedding as many women as possible with no strings attached. And women are allowing them to do so. Any enterprising male can sleep with as many women as he wishes because so many females are saying: “Yes”. The goods are given away for free. Men with assets are particularly popular with females. They get a smorgasbord of females chasing them into the bedroom. It’s called hypergamy. It is part of what is now called the “Cock Carousel”.
During my work and elsewhere, I talk with many young people. A common question from the girls has been: “Andy. We can’t find males who are prepared to commit.” (Which means ‘get married’.) In recent years, the question has become: “Andy. We can’t even find boyfriends.” So I ask the boys in the age range twenty-five to thirty-five: “You blokes going to get married?” and the reply is always along the lines: “Who the fuck wants to get married. It’s a fucking disaster.” When further quizzed, the disaster they talk about is the marriage breakup. They have heard stories from older males along the lines: “I was ‘done over’ by a woman.” You may wish to argue the truth or start a blame-game, but they have heard the stories. Even today, a young building worker said to me: “Every other older bloke I talk on the building site seems to have been ‘done over’ by a woman.” Here is a typical comment from John Dodds: “It doesn’t matter what she says or thinks, because when the time comes for her to change her mind, cheat on you, and divorce-rape you, the law will always be on her side. ‘You can trust me, I’m a traditional woman’, been then done that, and suffered the subsequent asset stripping. Fuck all you white bitches!” The truth is irrelevant. This suggests that males would marry if marriage had some permanency. The males will accept a restriction on their freedom provided the arrangement is reliable. The main issue for the boys is that they don’t trust that the girl will stay with them. They are particularly feared by the fifty percent divorce rate. However, there are many other issues.
This issue of non-availability of males for marriage is a multifaceted problem and I shall slowly work through the many issues.
The problem of males being ‘less than keen’ has many facets. Boys in their mid-twenties sometimes say to me: “Andy. Where can we find ‘Good Girls’?” When I quiz them on the meaning of ‘Good Girls’, they reply: “Someone that is not going to sleep with your best mate the next week.” In other words, the boys are asking me where they can find girls of the ‘marrying kind’. A lack of trust has arisen. Girls are still getting married, although in reduced numbers. We need to get you into the group that are getting married.
The ‘Sexual Revolution’ has ushered in a level of promiscuity that can only be maintained by running hospitals to cure the nasty little diseases. The ‘Sexual Revolution’ turns out to be a ‘Sexual Revolution’ for males. Women have the ultimate say in whether sexual activity occurs. For tens of centuries, women had a cartel where they restricted access to the honeypot. The cartel has been broken. Whilst male sexual activity was entirely restricted to marriage, marriage was popular amongst males. Prostitutes were scorned, not because they were exercising their freedom but because they were breaking the ‘cartel’. Prostitutes give sex away for, say, one-hundred dollars. The cartel believed that this was too cheap and demanded a lifetime of male servitude. Sex has become so cheap that the prostitutes in Kalgoorlie are having a hard time making a dollar as suburban females are giving it away for free on dating apps. For males to have unencumbered sexual activity, requires females to say: “Yes”. The ‘Yes’ has become more prominent than the ‘No’ and prostitutes can no longer make a quid and girls cannot find husbands. The cartel needs to be re-introduced.
As the girl on the next table at breakfast in Cologne said: “All they want to do is fuck you.” I heard her say it three times. I smiled! She was nearly right. “They want to fuck you.” is correct, but they also want companionship and a family. In reality, no girl would date a male that did not want sexual relations with her at some stage. The male is programmed to create children with females. It is the harnessing of the energy of the male that differs from biology. This harnessing of the male is the ‘learned’ part. It arrived with civilization twelve thousand years ago. If we break this harnessing, we break society. Males under Christianity slept with only one female for their whole life. It required female promiscuity to alter this pattern. Telling girls that: “It is your body, you can do what you like with it.” was a lie from the start. We live in a society, and the needs of society take precedence over individual ‘rights’ and individual ‘demands’. I cannot yell and scream at midnight because it is ‘my body’. I cannot run down the street naked, with the argument that it is ‘my body’. I cannot lie on the railway tracks because it is ‘my body’. I cannot chop off a leg because it is ‘my body’. We live in a society and need to follow procedures to live in civilization. The procedures are handed down as tradition in any locality and have been the procedures that enabled a continuing stable society in that region. The traditions are the sum total of the best practice that previous generations have created and passed to us. We need to be mindful and honour the procedures handed down by tradition that enabled the very civilization in which we live. So the encouragement to promiscuity is a dangerous new concept capable of destroying everything our ancestors created for our benefit.
Promiscuity creates its own problem. If a boy detects that a girl has been in numerous beds, then he is likely to be just one male in a continuing string. Males put such a high value on (sexual) relationships with females that they will pledge all their future earnings and their total worth to the female in a procedure that puts a total restriction on all their future activities. He pledges his undying love (subordination) to a female in a process called marriage. The bed-hopping girl is not a reliable prospect for an LTR (long-term relationship) nor as a reliable mother.
Eighty years ago, couples would meet and within two weeks, would be organizing their marriage. Marriage was trusted by males. Sixty years ago, almost everybody married and typically at a young age. There were few divorces. Marriage was treated as the normal state of existence. He trusted her to look after his interests and she trusted him to look after her interests. There was a mutual sacrifice. There was a mutual gain. They both gained more than they lost. It was a win-win situation and the losses were negligible. It wasn’t a union of two individuals with individual demands, it was a union to form a couple where their joy came from looking after each other’s needs. “I look after you and you look after me.” If you see an old couple in a shopping centre, still holding hands and blowing kisses at each other, ask when they met. It is always when they were teenagers. He does not say: “I want .....”, he says: “What would you like dear?” And she says: “ But what would you like dear?” They are a couple. He still has a photo in his wallet of how she looked when he first met her. When he thinks of her, a picture icon comes up in his mind of what she looked like when he first met her. The first smile that she gave is permanently etched in his mind. He is still in love with the sexy smiling girl he met so long ago. He even has etched in his mind exactly what she looked like the first time he saw her naked. He is still in love with the girl he met sixty years ago.
Currently, the unmarried number of adults in the U.S.A. is at parity with the number of married adults. The happy family that formed the foundation of western life, is now in a minority. Mom, dad, and the kids is becoming a distant dream for many. I am thinking that the current era is the worst time in recorded history for marriage. This is the environment in which we are working. We need to overcome the obstacles.
Our problem has many facets. Women are putting careers before family. Boys are not proposing. Promiscuity appears to be at the highest levels since we were hunter-gatherers. Disappointment and depression are at high levels generally and are particularly high amongst females, particularly working females. Women have embraced education and have been imbibed with a desire for success. But the concept of success has an ambiguous destination. It is like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, never to be found. The desire for success becomes an obsession. An obsession with success has an ugly companion called stress. The twenty-six-year-old English girl in the hostel last night was talking, whilst on her fourth pint-bottle of vodka mixer, about her job as a mathematics and science teacher. This matched my initial career as a mathematics and science teacher. She told me that she was a good teacher, however, she also talked about horrendous migraines that she attributed to work stress. She described them as being so severe that “it was like someone, with an electric drill, drilling straight into my brain.” She described it as: “Pain beyond belief.” How can this ever be considered to be ‘success’? It is more of a demonstration of the consequences of an unwarranted obsession with success. And, by the way, there was no man on her tail. She was resolutely single. She described the British education system as “fucked”. She was somehow proud of being ‘successful’ in a career system that she described as ‘fucked’. I felt sad for her. She had not embraced success. She was a sad story in a sad system.
Girls are subtly being persuaded to choose between career and motherhood. As soon as they choose a career path, they restrict the motherhood path. Their focus changes. Their communication changes. Their goals change. Their perceived status changes. Their expectations change and so on. This is magnified by the reduction in their desirability to males as their age progresses. The whole concept is a disaster for womanhood. It is difficult for older girls to find mates and the difficulty is becoming magnified.
A clamouring for success creates a restlessness to better your performance. You try to fulfil a purpose larger than yourself and often against the odds. I’ll tell you now. The destination ‘success’ does not exist. It is like chasing the end of the rainbow. It is the same trick that was played on me to work hard for the benefit of society. Girls are given damaging advice such as: “Constantly remind yourself of your dreams.” and “Women can do it.”
One woman writes that she writes “a lot about the importance of non-attachment.” She is effectively advocating the ‘suppression of emotions’ and ‘keeping people and things at arm’s length’ which were traits previously encourage in males so that they became ‘tireless’ workers that could be manipulated by the emotionally skillful females. She suggests that happiness is ‘self-fostered’ and thus is not dependent on others nor the environment. She is wrong on every account. Joy is through relationships and happiness derives from making others happy. She advocates stoicism, but that like the advice above were items foisted on males so that they would work for the benefit of ‘society’ which meant for females and children. Stoicism might be described as the endurance of pain or hardship without the display of feelings and without complaint — the very characteristics that made men useful to females and pliable by females. The male that hides his emotions is more easily manipulated by the emotionally skilful female. Men think strength is in the muscle, but it is in the emotional manipulation of the male by the female. Under patriarchy, males are led to believe that they ‘run the show’ but they do so at the behest and guidance of the females that influence their lives. Girls are currently encouraged to take on characteristics of males which makes them useful to the new master — the corporate state — your new ‘daddy’ who now manipulates you using the same tactics that women used to use to control their males. Women are encouraged to embrace ‘success’ — Oh! — the holy grail of success. They are even given the definition of success. Success is being useful to your new master — the corporate controlled state. Family — forget that — that is ‘old’ fashioned. Success is redefined for a woman. Success no longer means a happy family. Success is redefined as working for a corporation that controls the ‘new’ state. ‘New’ communism. Your glory comes from working for a corporation that has become the state.
The desire for success creates competitiveness. The girl starts to see males as competitors rather than companions. Males are not the enemy. Males are your friends. Males are your companions. The good man will look after you throughout your life. Males worship females and always have done. He is not a competitor, he is a soulmate. Males are not looking for competitors. He doesn’t want to beat you at card games or sports or verbal jousting — he just wants a partner with a view to creating a family. He sees you as a potential mother, not a jousting partner. Nature gave men strength, logic, competitiveness, and inventiveness, but they are compassionate towards women because nature requires them to be cooperative with females to enable breeding. Males, by nature, must be cooperative with females to enable breeding.
Education makes a person logical. Education encourages you to question. A British grammar school followed by university made me excessively logical. My world was logic and word games. I viewed emotion as a nuisance when logic did not work. I would conquer emotion by overriding the emotion with logical thought. Emotion might sometimes get the better of me and had to be overcome. Education gave me a battered soul. I had to be the best at everything that I put my mind to. Nothing was to beat me. It has taken a lifetime to recover from my mishandling. I am sixty-six. Girls escaped this treatment when I was young. Now they are being given the same punishment. Girls have become logical and questioning. They get into conversations and use sentences that include: “But what if ...” Or they say: “I don’t think I agree with that.” Then they pause for three seconds to think of some reason why they don’t agree. This is a very destructive way of thinking and communicating. It turns a pleasant conversation into a verbal sparring match. I have a male friend that used to do that and in the end, he would be arguing in the opposite direction to the one he had started with. But relationships have nothing to do with logic. Relationships are formed by the creation of an emotional connection. The whole of the courting process can be done without words. Absolutely no logic is required. Even the coupling process needs absolutely no words. You only need words to work out what time to set the alarm clock. Relationships are entirely an emotional connection. Any differences between the individuals make the relationship more exciting. In fact, it is the difference between the male and the female that makes it work. The use of logic in the creation of relationships is counterproductive. Relationships are based on emotional connection involving instinct and intuition, not logic. Education encourages the victim to use analysis and logic. A few straight-faced teachers will knock the emotion out of you as will working in an office. Logical thought arrived with the invention of language around one hundred thousand years ago. It is language that allows us to order our thoughts in our brain. Before language, we managed the whole of the courting process without words. We used to communicate with facial expressions, nods, body mannerisms, kisses, and touch. The smile is the primary means of communication. The stroke of a hand down the arm sends a powerful communication of acceptance. There is a message in a hug. Look straight into somebody’s eyes and after three seconds, give a smile. If the smile is appropriate, the recipient will melt. Words are entirely unnecessary during the courting process and are not even needed through the coupling process. Watch a pair of teenagers. They only need stand next to each other and they will soon hold hands. Then they start kissing. Then you will have to get the hose pipe on them to get them apart. All of this occurred without logic and without a word being spoken. A young couple does not part because he rides motorbikes and she rides horses. They stay together because, when she looks into his eyes, he melts. She knows how to look into his eyes with her special ‘look’ and overcome all his strengths such that he becomes a quivering wreck in her hands. She has the power. Her ‘power’ overpowers his physical power. He falls to his metaphorical knees in her presence. Girls have this skill built into them. I need to show how to reclaim those skills. This is not the ‘Girl Power’ that they talk about at present. That is just logic, illogic, and demanding screams. This power is the power in you to bring the world weightlifting champion to his knees and beg you to stay. He could lift you and your whole family above his head, but you have the ability to bring him to his knees using your guile and femininity. You bring him to a situation where he cannot live without you. That is the real power of the feminine form. Women have the ultimate power over men. Used judiciously, women have almost total control over men. That is how they sent them out to work and run things so that they could have a stress-free life of leisure. The stress and responsibility were pushed onto the male using feminine guile. It was not that men were taking the jobs, it was that women wanted men to take all the jobs. Women were proud that ‘their’ man was a prestigious money earner. Women could sit in the café and play their status game of who had the best-controlled working slave. “He is very good. He works long hours and is very kind to me. He just bought me a car.” That is why the female was adorned with jewellery, painted nails, and exotic clothes and the male was dressed in practical clothes, short haircut, trimmed nails, and bland colours to make him disappear. He was of primary use in bringing in an income for her to spend as she wished.
The male is the rugged, athletic worker and she is the leisure seeker. If he was a good worker, he would be allowed to pleasure her further in the bedroom. He was a slave inside and outside the bedroom. Feminism has released males from bondage to actively bed numerous women and pushed women into work roles and to service males in all the numerous sex practices now demanded by men. Many males have learned how to put women in psychological chains. Enterprising males have learned ‘game’. “Oh! You are so good at that!” is a message to that night’s ‘fellatio queen’. Girls start to feed off the male’s feedback rather than the other way around. A girl’s self-validation is coming from a male rather than the other way around.
One pundit blurted:
“Feminism made women absolutely unbearable to be around and impossible to form lasting bonds with, and so by default, men categorized YOU as nothing but the very sex objects feminism claimed the patriarchy labelled you as.” [Zane]
He commented: “Irony is a bitch.”
In the formation of relationships, age plays a crucial role. Friendships created in teen years are incredibly strong. They share each other’s possessions and minds. They look after each other through thick and thin. Your friendships created in your teen years will last you a lifetime. Friendships created at twenty-eight are quite different. They are more like acquaintances or business partnerships. They are shallow and comparatively fragile. It is the same with male-female relationships. If you see an old couple in the park holding hands and talking sweet nothings to each other, ask when they met — it is always when they were teenagers. No one is telling girls the reality that if they leave ‘finding a man’ until their late twenties, they are pushing water uphill. Relationships at twenty-eight are hard to create and even harder to maintain. They tend to be more like acquaintances or business relations. Relationships created at twenty-eight just do not have the same level of emotional connection. If you have a good man chasing you in your low twenties — marry him. You will never have a male carry you through thick and thin again. Sod the career. In the modern era, the easiest thing for a girl to do is to pass exams and get a job. They even tilt the playing field in favour of girls. The most difficult thing to do is find a man — and yet more difficult to find a man that will marry you. The toughest challenge under the new sexual liberation and feminist monopoly of opinion is to find a man who will buckle to your desires. The power of the media-backed feminism can change many practices but it has yet to find a way to force a man to marry you. The female can put him in jail after he marries with a few malicious words to the inappropriately-named ‘justice’ system. You can garner his income when you divorce him a few years after he pledges his undying love. Failure to fund your life with a replacement male will put him in jail to be beaten and raped by other inmates. But you cannot yet put him in jail for not marrying you. The decision to marry has become quite torturous for males. But that makes it difficult for young females to snare a male. So the result of tilting the family court in favour of women is actually a disaster for women pushing women into a life of unhappiness with cats and anti-depressants.
