Three-hundred million years ago, I became a reptile.
Two-hundred-and-twenty million years ago, I became a mammal. One-hundred-and-sixty million years ago, I gave birth to live young. At about eighty-five-million years ago, I became a primate. At about forty-million years ago, I became a great ape. I was a bit more human-like by fifteen-million-years ago. I became a Hominina around seven-million-years ago. I learned to walk on two legs about four million years ago. I was effectively human by about two and a half million years ago but I became an anatomically modern human by about three-hundred-thousand years ago. So let us remember three-hundred-thousand years as the start of our human form. My development as a human occurred in Africa from about six million years ago. I was probably one of about twenty species of humans. I haven’t seen the others around for a long time so I assume they all died out. I have a small percentage of them in me anyway. I escaped from Africa about seventy-thousand-years ago and made my way around the world. It took me a while, but I got to Australia about sixty-thousand-years ago. I arrived in the Americas about thirty-thousand-years ago. Then came my Neolithic Revolution about twelve thousand years ago when I learned how to get food to come to me. I now call that agriculture. I think that is clever, but some of the things that I eat are not what I was designed to eat.
Tactic: Start eating sensibly for your health. You need to demonstrate that you look after yourself.
It’s been full on since then. I thought I was clever when I started to use the skins of other animals to keep warm when I escaped from Africa. I don’t remember, but I think I started talking about one-hundred-thousand years ago. Before that, I used smiles, nods, and touch. I have forgotten much of my facial communication but it is still embedded in my DNA. I could repopulate the world with smiles and nods. It worked well. A smile and a nod and it was all on. We still do not need speech in bed. The courting process does not need words. Courting and coupling can work without words. And herein lies many people’s problem with courting. Speech is a learned process. I invented speech about one-hundred-thousand years ago. Language is not just for speaking, it helps me to use logic in my brain. Language is not in my DNA. All my courting procedures are embedded in my DNA but we are using modern logic to override these natural characteristics. In fact, it has become trendy to pass illogic off as logic. Such as choosing career over family or sticking a penis in the wrong hole or seeing a psychiatrist to fix over-thinking. We are living in an era of illogic and it is sillier than that sign on the freeway where you turn left to go right. I love that Australian saying: “Turn left and you’ll be right. Mate!” I usually have to repeat it a couple of times before they get it.
I picked up some Neanderthal genes around sixty thousand years ago. My Neanderthal cousins escaped from Africa about three-hundred thousand years ago. I am about two percent Neanderthal as we got on quite intimately. My African friends have no Neanderthal genes in them as they did not shack-up with the Neanderthals. Some of the Neanderthal genes allowed me to adapt to non-African environments. These genes may have made me more inventive and adaptable. I clearly developed in a warm region with minimal daylight-change because I am not hairy like a bear and I like eight hours sleep. I didn’t actually change that much as I moved across the world because I adapted my surroundings to suit me rather than adapting to my surroundings. I get a bit depressed in the Scandinavian winters with the short daylight hours. I used to sleep when the sun went down. That all changed when some clown invented electric lights. After that, I stay awake when it is dark outside and sleep when the sun is up. Then I see a psychologist to stop my over-thinking and he says: “Let’s think about this!” I had to become inventive as I moved to different regions. I got the idea to use other animals skins to keep warm and called them clothes. Then some clown came along and told me that, if I didn’t wear clothes, I was “indecent”. Anyway, I cheat a bit by letting my shape show through my clothes. I dress in a manner that is sexually provocative to males, then the feminists complain that a male looked at them. I bend over, so that I reveal what I want to who I want. In the Muslim countries, the chador covers the head and body. It is intended to convey concepts of religiosity, morality, and sexual purity. It declares the purity and good intent of the woman. Yet Muslim males have told me that it is a very exciting method of dress.
In India, I like my air-conditioning. I learned to build houses with heaters and all sorts of clever gadgets like windows and doors. I became civilized soon after I discovered how to get food to come to me around twelve thousand years ago. The invention of agriculture was a pivotal event in my history. It led to the creation of civilization where I could live in fixed abodes. There was not much written on how I became civilized because I had yet to invent writing. I invented writing about five thousand years ago. [1] It was a bit slow in those days as I chiselled symbols into stone. My writing got faster when I invented ink and paper.
At about ten thousand years ago, my way of living changed to civilized life. There is little written about this because I did not know how to write. At that stage of my evolution, there was a change in the way sex occurred. This short while ago, when we became civilized, rules were created such that females decided when sex would occur rather than males deciding when sex would occur. This enabled sex to be rationed and males to be tamed and their efforts put to productive use. It was a masterful stroke where women let men think they ran everything and did all the work whilst women manipulated the men into doing everything for the benefit of women. The initial training was done by the mothers and you can still watch the process in practice by any mother pushing a pram. Later, he begs for servility to a wife and she rations sex to obtain mastery. He is usefully logical and she manipulates him by playing his emotions. That is what is secretly known as ‘The Secret’ It is the secret that is wrapped in the joke: “Men rule the world, but women rule the men.” You, the reader, may know the secret but propaganda disguised as feminism and education has denied you ‘The Secret’. This book is to re-educate you about the secret so that males can be put back under the control of females. Males are currently running loose, fucking whoever is horny and avoiding the servitude of marriage. Many men say that they would like to go back to the old ways. They enjoyed servicing a female and offspring. Many girls tell me that they cannot find a husband (man-slave) which indicates that there is a slave rebellion occurring.
The harnessing of male power and ego for the benefit of society and women was the key to the creation of civilisation. Making males subservient to the family unit by encouraging ‘responsibility’ was the key to civilisation. There were various other changes in procedure to enable us to change from a life as hunter-gatherers to a civilized life. So far, I have identified these:
All the above items and more are required to operate a society. Failure of any of the above will push society into crisis or collapse or disappearance. However, nothing will cause collapse quicker than a collapse of the money system. The inefficiency of barter becomes rapidly apparent. Trade between strangers becomes impossible or difficult. Division into tribal groups occurs. These groups attack each other and civilized order disappears. Money-system-collapse destroys society more effectively than war and far more effectively than breaking the other items listed above. We need a highly ordered society to operate a money system. Money enabled food to be produced remotely from cities. The farmers had to be in debt to the city-folk so that they would produce food for the city-folk to eat.
We also learned to ration land. Yet we make another mistake. Land is not apportioned on the basis of need. Land is apportioned according to borrowing power greatly disfavouring the unwise young. We are prejudicing against the young. The land system is horribly unfair and the landowners manipulate the tax system to avoid the introduction of a Land Tax, favouring the taxing of the landless through Income Tax which is conveniently avoided by the wealthy.
For most of our existence as humans, we existed as hunter-gatherers. The ancient hunter-gatherers lived in small groups, normally of about ten or twelve adults plus children. For less than one percent of our existence, we have lived a civilized life. We are still in the experimental stage of the setup of civilization and we are still making mistakes.
Money is imperfect because it not able to act as a store of value at the same time as enabling transactions. This is a flaw in the definition of money. Money was invented to facilitate transactions and so it needs to act as a temporary store of purchasing power between transactions, but it does not need to hold value any longer than the next transaction. The start of civilization can be approximated to about twelve thousand years ago and this is less than one percent of the time since humans were created. [12,000 divided by 2,000,000 = 0.6%] Cities were first formed around five-thousand years ago, which is 0.25% of the time since humans started to leave Africa. Civilization and money are very new to humans and the understanding of the operation of civilization systems is in its infancy. When we became civilized, we needed a set of rules. The rule of the jungle was not going to work. The people that created the rules made a system for the operation of a society. If their rule-set did not work, that group died out and the religion died out. So all the long existing religions have been successful at operating civilization. Had they not been successful, they would have died out along with the civilization. For that reason, we should be careful not to throw out the rule-set that has lasted two thousand years. The rule-set from Jesus was particularly good as it emphasized cooperation and decency between all people. Rules were made for the behaviour of males and females along with courting procedures and marriage. Operating under the rules of Moses was particularly harsh as all the rules were negative, just as the rules of a nation-state are negative. Jesus brought positivity by saying we had to be good to each other. You can leave Christianity and come back when in trouble. The Christian value system makes a good basis for running a family and a country and Christ made a good role-model for young males. Unfortunately, Christians are hopelessly gullible and fall for every trick to destroy their precious ways of life. Our ancestors recognized that marriage was bigger than the two individuals joined in matrimony. The marriage was a stable base for the upbringing of a family. The marriage system breaks down when the individuals demand individualistic rights rather than working towards a shared common goal. The stability of this unit and the skills and value system instilled in the offspring by mothers was important to the whole society.
However, long-term marriage was not the norm in hunter-gather society. The male was certainly opportunistic. However, our habit of falling in love suggests attachment for at least a few years. This probably matched the time for a child to be reared. We must also remember back to the times when humans did not realize that sex created babies. Sometimes you hear a male say: “I would like to make babies with you.” but it is considered a joke, because males tend not to think of babies when they copulate. In fact, it is the furthest thing from their mind. Their mind is closer to: “Let’s get this fucked”. Girls are more prone to think in terms of babies. However, There was a time in our past when even girls did not know that sex made babies. That is why sex was made enjoyable. The reptile brain gets fired up when sex occurs. The neocortex can say: “You can manage without.” but your reptile brain is saying: “Go for it!” This is why a young girl can get ‘carried away in the moment’ and get pregnant. Her reptile brain becomes dominant when ‘aroused’ by an interesting male.
In the current era, there is an encouragement to enjoy the ‘enjoyment part of sex’ rather than the ‘procreation part of sex’. However, both enjoyment and procreation are ‘part of nature’. They are programmed into our DNA. They are permanently programmed into our reptilian brain. Putting a penis in the ‘wrong hole’ is not programmed into our DNA. Oral sex is unlikely to be programmed into our DNA. Ejaculating other than in the vagina is not programmed into our DNA.
It is good advice never to mention babies to males. Babies are the last thing on their mind. Males face up to fatherhood, the day that they find out that the girl of his dreams is pregnant. They start to ‘get real’ when they see a baby pop out of the hole where they were sticking their penis.
He becomes very helpful. He will do almost whatever you want. There would also have been a time when females did not relate copulation to birth. Girls tend to be much more switched on in these areas. So our courting system still uses the procedures from our reptile past. Ballroom dancing was one of the best. The male asks the female: “May I have the next dance.” Protocol dictates that she must say: “Yes”. They then embrace in an extremely close manner. The female breasts are thrust into him and he has his leg between hers and very close to the honeypot and, conveniently, he did not have to say very much. Thus society invented a meeting method where males and females were intertwined in a formal setting. Wow! males touching females in public! How risqué!
We broke from that excellent tradition when some clown invented a ‘modern’ form of dancing called “the twist” where the two did not touch and nor did they make eye contact. Ballroom dancing needs to be reintroduced. It was the ‘West’s’ best introduction tool. This is one of your first tasks — to get enrolled in dancing classes. When the girls start attending, the boys will follow.
The use of the logical parts of our brain effectively stops the courting process. Forget logic. Logic will not work. Talk is irrelevant banter as time fillers between facial communication and touch. You are using reptilian courting practices. Your neocortex brain is going to hinder the process. Its all about eyes, facial expressions, nods, gestures, touch, and smells. Using the modern parts of your brain is a guaranteed failure. Allow him to do the talking. You are operating on a higher level than his logic. The situation has got worse since the advent of education. Education encourages logical thinking. An educated person uses logic in every situation. The educated individual analyses everything and analyses possible responses with the result that the natural responses built into our DNA are inhibited. You have the ability to tell someone across the other side of a noisy crowded room, that you respect them, that you like looking at them, that you find them interesting, and if they let you, you would take things farther. You can fall in love with someone before you even utter a word.
I was in the physiotherapist yesterday for a shoulder damaged whilst roller-skating. I said something topical to a mother with two small children. I gave my usual respectful nod and facial expression. The mother responded with a full welcoming smile. However, the two children picked up that their mother had signalled that I was an ‘accepted’ stranger and the two immediately started to vigorously vie for the attention of my eyes. They looked without actually having something ready to say. When they got my attention, they were word-struck. I gave some idle banter and discussed this child acceptance with mother. We are bright enough to detect that a friend of a friend is a friend — all subconsciously, of course.
When I had given the two small girls attention with my eyes, they were stuck for words. We were friends with no words. I have many friends with no words. The girls were after eyeball contact. They will gradually get that knocked out of them with encouragement to use speech rather than non-verbal communication. Unfortunately, you will have to learn non-verbal communication to court successfully. I will stick my neck out and say that you will get nowhere without non-verbal communication.
I now say that the smile is our primary means of communication and that words and logic are a secondary means of communication. School and office work teaches that words are our primary means of communication. But this is false. Without smiles, no relationship is possible. Those that rely on words tend to straight-face people and fail to create empathy and a relationship.
The current lack of affectionate touch is affecting humans. The sense of touch develops before birth in embryos. It is the primary method by which infants learn about their environment. Touch is the primary means of providing love to a baby. Infants use touch to bond with other humans. The sense of touch continues to operate after the other human senses fail when we get old. You may have noticed that even the briefest touch from another human elicits strong emotional experience in your body. Use this to your advantage. You must touch your potential man. ‘Accidentally’ or purposely. If it is crowded, you can squeeze past him. A shiver will go down his spine. His speech will cease and he will not be able to talk for a few moments. If you are in an awkward seating arrangement, you may have to squeeze over his seat. If there is a lack of seating, you may have to sit on his lap. Touch is a strong emotional communication. In a relationship, a pat on the derriere gives a clear message that you want him around. Those scientists in white coats seem to think that touch is crucial for a child’s growth, development, and health. Touch is also necessary for an adult humans’ mental and physical well-being. Humans in modern societies are drastically touch-deprived. In an extended family group birthday yesterday, a wife in her low thirties, walked past her sitting husband and ran her hand across his chest and up his neck and lightly touched his cheek line. I was talking to a small group about non-verbal communication at that very moment. Her hand rub did not disturb the conversation. I mentioned the hand rub and the husband didn’t realize that it had happened. To him it was automatic. When I asked her about it, she was surprised and said: “It’s what you do!” She also brought a carrot stick and dip to him. He turned both into inane jokes to which she gave a toothy smile to his toothy smile. Both smiles looked like this:
We give each other toothy grins when we are excited about the progress of our relationship at the emotional connection level. It is a sort of a: “He. He. He.” idiotic giggle. Our male made useless jokes that were not funny but their laughing communication was magnificent. The communicative grin was more like a monkey grin — all teeth and gums. They were the picture of togetherness, reaffirming their relationship on a frequent basis with minimal use of conversation. When you grin inanely at a male whilst he grins inanely back, you are at a milestone in your relationship. When two people smile inanely at each other, whilst looking into each other’s eyes they are communicating a strong close relationship. It is this picture again.
Words were only used for logic communication. My conversation had started because I was wearing a ‘Free Hugs’ badge. I had made the badge on my badge making machine after writing the next paragraph of this chapter:
“Unfortunately, touch is perceived negatively in certain circumstances which leads to excessive caution before touch occurs. Humans need tactile communication. You must encourage hugs in your family. Hugs are an extremely important welcome and goodbye communication. Never avoid the hugs.”
Buy some ‘Free hugs’ badges on the internet and share them with friends. You might get a little unwanted-attention but you might get the attention you wanted. When he feels that body up against him, he may not be able to speak sensibly. If he is talking garbage, he may be falling for you. Just say: “Yes”, with a different tone, every time he pauses, until he settles down a little. Don’t forget your New Year’s resolution: “Married within two years. Children within three.” Separated males will say: “I miss the cuddles.” Females tend to initiate touch more often and it is more socially acceptable for women to initiate tactile communication. It may also be biologically more appropriate. Males do have a strong tendency to toward the handshake. As a female, you really need to develop a habit that all welcomes should potentially involve a massive unforgettable hug. You are the girl that gives the unforgettable hugs. Hugs are also a very cheap thank you present.
When someone falls off their bicycle and is in pain, we may ‘hold their hand’. The holding of the hand is an expression of support and more.
You will be far better at this than your male. In fact, he will probably be hopeless, but he will love you for your support. Touch plays a strong role in creating a loving bond. Touch also maintains and enhances love. Humans are more satisfied when their relationship where tactile involvement occurs. Even in casual encounters, brief touches magnify the interaction. A female waitress will receive a larger tip if she touches a customer. A pat on the shoulder or arm is commonly considered polite. Some level of touch is going to be important on a first date. It may be accidental or purposeful. Have a good read on the internet about: “touch”. Hugs are even classified by type.
Practice some gestures. Girls often have some clever dance type gestures. You may be able to get a man on the other side of a room to mimic a gesture or two. I remember some girls getting me to mimic a hand going across my face with an accompanying finger movement. It was the type of hand movement used by female singers. Mimicking a man’s movements may get his attention.
Whilst writing this chapter, I did some experiments. I purposely got to know a few persons by giving them my communicative smile that gave the background message: “I respect you. I like looking at you. I find you very interesting. I would like to get to know you.” On some occasions, the girl responded with a special beaming smile that made a wave of excitement pass right through my body. It became clear to me that a male has a way of saying he is interested without using words and the female has a way of getting the male to fall in love with her, all without words. A girl with her special smile had caused me to fall for her. If it was in a busy room, she might come straight toward me and with a totally disarming smile, would initiate a conversation with the word: “Hi”, putting me on the spot to speak. The smile would continue as I facially demonstrated my weakness to her smile whilst maintaining a personal aura of strength. What happened over the next few meetings was interesting. Initial eye contact was still the ‘excited to see you’ look, but it was not enough. There had to be a hug. The hug itself conveyed a message. There is something about the way that the hug is made that passes a message. Done in a certain way, the hug conveys the affirmation of a bond. Hugs convey different messages depending on how they are conducted. Fascinating. I had not realized that before.
Work out why they are embracing?The old English handshake is simply not enough. The bear hug is essential. Girls do it best. Girls can even walk up behind a man and give him a reassuring hug. A male can do it when the relationship is stable. So, even hugs convey emotions depending on how they are conducted. This is all very reptilian. The trick seems to be to get ‘lost in the moment’ and allow instinct to control your actions and use instinct to interpret her emotional message. It appears that whenever you cross eyes with someone, there is a need to convey an emotional message. I commonly use a tiny nod of respect that includes an ‘I am a friend’ or ‘I wish friendship with you’ message. There is a bit of mischievousness to the smile in that I invite an eye and facial expression contest. It might convey: “Can you give better emotional messages than me.” This might sound a bit ‘Cuckoo’ to some, but you must remember that I was educated as a mathematician and an engineer, so I have logic coming out of my ears. I used logic to puzzle how we can use expressions to convey messages and add joy to people’s day. You can even have fun with children in prams whilst their mothers are having coffee. The little children are very fascinated when you play games with the eyes. Opening, closing, rolling the eyeballs, covering the eyes with a hand, looking between fingers, and many other activities can have children entranced. I sometimes put a hand over my eyes in a manner to suggest that I am embarrassed at the way she wiggles her torso or naughtier. I show a pretend embarrassment at her sexually provocative action. It often encourages her to be more provocative. It is a lot of fun in a boy-girl way.
It thus appears that the adult has lost both the eye communication and the ability to have fun doing so. Playful facial expressions between strangers are a lot of fun. I even do so when driving my bus. Three seconds of facial fun with someone on a cross-walk brightens the day. Whenever have you had a girl blow a kiss back at you whilst walking across a cross-walk?
