Using some common sense logic, I give this advice:
“To attract a male you need to be the type of girl that a male would be attracted to.”
That has to be some of the most simplistic logic available. I give the same advice to males:
“To attract a female you need to be the type of male that a female would be attracted to.”
Thus, the task of this chapter is to work out what type of female is attractive to an appropriate male. We need to make you into the type of girl that a man is looking for. In the garbled words of ‘Deleted’: “the carrot on the stick we as guys (had) was the idea of a quality wife to be devoted to.” It was a component of the ‘American Dream’. ‘Deleted’ continues with: “There are many reasons to do something, but if we arranged them in a hierarchical structure we’d find that at the apex is that idea of securing a mate. A guy might work out for health, for instance, or maybe to win a coming competitive event, but in the end all those things are trumped by that drive to increase ones odds of sharing our life with that companion we all so crave. If you are working your ass off to get that dream, and then you find out no matter what you do your not good enough, why would someone bother working that hard? The natural consequence of leaving a majority of men sexually disenfranchised is to leave them disenfranchised with the whole social system. Why would anyone sacrifice for something that sees them as unworthy and unwanted?” There is an unspoken demand by males for ‘Good Girls’ of the mairiageable kind — even if they don’t say it.
A male is programmed to spread seed. This enthusiasm took millions of years to refine. In past history, any male that did not ‘push his luck’ in the mating game was excluded from the gene pool. Darwin’s procedures encouraged nature to make the brain concentrate on mating rather than danger and gave the animal a reward sensation when the mission was accomplished.
A species has two options for survival. It can produce vast quantities of offspring and hope some survive, or it can produce fewer high-quality offspring that are well endowed to survive. The two reproductive methods are often referred to colloquially as ‘Quantity versus Quality’. The propensity of leaping in and out of bed with promiscuous females corresponds to quantity. Tying a male to a female who ‘calls the shots’ corresponds to quality. The system has been subverted by contraception, DNA testing, and the ability to track any male through a national database. The quantity system gives a regular reward to the male providing he can ‘disappear rapidly’. However, the male may accept a situation of partial serfdom to achieve a ‘quality’ outcome. This involves dropping to his left knee and pledging permanent loyalty to a female. This is why his male mates rib him about acquiescence to servility. He then comes under the rigid requirements of the church, family, and community to serve, protect, and remain ‘faithful’. Faithful means he will not be led astray by other women. Since we became civilized, only women have the authority to decide when sex will occur and when it will not. Women were given the upper hand in matters sexual. The male is prepared to accept this servility to produce quality offspring. This system of male servility to the requirements of a female, family, and society is the only way that civilization can continue. The family unit is the bedrock of society. To encourage males into this relationship to one female, it is useful to restrict his access to promiscuous sex, promote the importance of the family unit in society, and give him family status and status within society for having submitted. Statements such as: “Good family man” and “Good father” were common before the current breakdown of the arrangement. Discouragement of divorce was essential. It was essential to persuade girls to keep their legs closed until the marriage day. In a well organised society, males have no access to sex until they marry. Females effectively created a cartel where no male was allowed sex unless he married a girl and pledged to support her and the offspring for life. Society wanted children to grow up in a stable family background.
The fastest way to destroy a society is to debase the money system. This is used as a tactic on occasions by those that control the money supply. The next method is to destroy the family unit as the basis of society. To do this one would do many of the following:
Communism cleverly had many of these features written into its manifesto. The main goal of The Communist Manifesto [1848 by Karl Marx] was to focus on class struggle and encourage the ordinary people to riot against an existing government. Communism doesn’t just demand economic and political reform. Communism demands the abolition of religion and the morality code founded upon the religion. It destroys the foundation of civilization, the secure family unit where the young are raised by their biological parents. The manifesto encourages people to reject their working governmental systems through riot and revolution supposedly to usher in a workers utopia. During the upheaval, a totalitarian system is implemented through bloodshed which results in a complete oppression of the people it was supposed to ‘serve’. It is to take over of a country by deception. When communism would not take hold in Western nations, components of this propaganda appeared in Western nations.
Historian Harold Berman has this to say about the historical European politics:
“It also has been, or once was, a source of freedom. A serf might run to the town court for protection against his master. A vassal might run to the king’s court for protection against his lord. A cleric might run to the ecclesiastical court for protection against the king.” [Harold Berman ‘Law and Revolution’.]
Under communism, there is no such protection. The state is absolute. Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn told us that around sixty-six million (mainly Christians) were killed for the ‘good of the state’. The takedown of Russia by the Bolsheviks took nine million citizens lives. It was no revolution. It was a bloodletting coup causing nine-million deaths of the people they were ‘releasing’ from Tsarist rule. Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, referring to modern Western nations, later writes:
“For us in Russia, communism is a dead dog, while, for many people in the West, it is still a living lion.” [8]
I believe that he is talking about feminism. He tries to tell us that “communism is anti-humanity.” and continues with: “to reject this inhuman Communist ideology is simply to be a human being.”
Henry Makow writes:
“There is nothing that feminists said or did in the 1960s-1980s that wasn’t prefigured in the Communist Party of the USA (CPUSA) of the 1940s and 1950s. While the CPUSA took their orders from Moscow, Feminism was repressed in the USSR. The Soviets understood its subversive character.” [9]
This statement might appear to be a typical feminist statement, but it has a different origin.
“Rape is an expression of ... male supremacy ... the age-old economic, political and cultural exploitation of women by men.” [9]
The statement is part of an American Communist Party pamphlet from 1948 with the title: ‘Woman Against Myth’ by Mary Inman.
Feminism has similarities to communism. Feminism encourages socially enforced equality whilst claiming that it is championing the greater good, whilst in reality, it creates hatred, resentment, disincentive, and favouritism towards its proponent.
Here are some of the Communist goals that Albert S. Herlong Jr. read into the Congressional Record in 1963:
You may notice these trends occurring. Statements to impressionable young girls such as: “It’s your body. You can do what you want with it.” are very destructive to a well-organized society. Society relies on every member acting in a manner that furthers the welfare of all. Society cannot operate when every person operates for their own benefit. Society cannot operate when one group only wants features that benefit their group. That is why Gadhafi said: “It is better to only have one religion in a nation.” He turned Libya into a very well functioning Muslim nation. His nation was the most wealthy in all of Africa. He threw out a religion that he believed was counter to the efficient operation of his nation.
In America, the breakdown of society under this ‘sexual revolution’ has been quite astounding.
From your point of view, you need to recognize the breakdown of the traditional order to manage your own situation and to assist in its repair. It is very unlikely that males will campaign in numbers to correct the situation. Any change is likely to be driven by females. But this is not the topic of this chapter.
From your situation, looking for a reliable male, you need to recognize the state of turmoil. Eighty years ago, the situation was so rigid and predictable, that a male would meet a girl and trust her enough that he would propose within a fortnight. She was most likely the only woman that he would ever sleep with. There was no opportunity for otherwise. Men will choose married life over promiscuity in the right circumstances. You need to create those circumstances. It is difficult to stop him from sleeping around when there are such a high number of females treating sex as a form of sporting pastime. We shall study the situation.
Some say: “Males want to sleep with bad girls but wish to marry a ‘good girl’.” This chapter analyses what a male looks for in a female. Let us have a look at various male voices on the subject of ‘good girls’:
There is no strict definition of a good girl. It is a mere concept. A girl is a good girl if she runs close to the guidelines. The male is not looking for the best girl as some form of trophy. He is looking for a girl that has the best attributes to make a mother. Thus, a girl that acts as a potential wonderful wife will be found by a male willing to support her attempt to become a mother. In simple terms, she is a girl who would be in her teens or low twenties who is a virgin by choice. They do not use swear words. They do not get angry. They are respectful, courteous, kind, and pleasantly conversational. They tend to wait until marriage before they have sex, although, in these promiscuous times, they will certainly wait until they are well into a committed relationship. They will make sure that the male has made a significant commitment before sleeping with the male. However, virginity until the marriage night is still the ideal. In this era of heavy media promotion of promiscuity, these girls are in a significant minority which may act in your favour.
However, the term good girl does not entirely qualify a girl to be the number one choice for a male. There is an assumption that the good girl passes all her exams and is career minded. Being career minded may mean that the girl puts career before marriage. The marriage-material girl will put family before career. Males have a subconscious ability to detect whether a girl puts family first. If the girl demonstrates family first, then he will follow. There is no assumption that being a good girl at school makes a girl a tempting target for marriage. Education tends to make one logical which causes all sorts of problems. The logical mind becomes illogical. Office work can have the same effect. Copying the words from textbooks is not education, it is indoctrination. Education tends to make one gullible to current propaganda. Education is not a requirement for a good girl. She might believe distracting statements such as “You’re just sexually repressed.” The male will try to lower your defences to get at the honeypot with whatever tactic he can summon.
A bad girl can be defined as:
A girl who defies normal standards of morals and manners. She tends to act in a wild, rebellious, or provocative manner. Bad girls have a tendency to do and say as they please and have no fear of the consequences. They only care about their own opinion. They tend to care only for themselves and use the word ‘I’ in every sentence. They tend to be fierce, refuse to follow trends, and make a name for themselves without conforming to what society sees as ‘right for women’. They tend to blame males for society’s problems. They attract males to satisfy their desire for regular wild intercourse. She spends her weekends drunk and often sleeps all over town. She constantly does things that are unacceptable to her parents and society and cares little for her reputation. She often boasts about her sexual history.
The bad girl is the type of girl that a man would never take home to meet his mother. Bad girls make poor girlfriends as they tend to do things like sleep with your best friend.
I can give no strict rules on what makes a good girl or what makes a bad girl. I can only give guidelines.
Here are some things you may hear from bad girls:
Here are some thoughts on how to be the Good Girl:
This is a quip about change in behaviour that comes from a male called Roosh: “The first time I used it outside of a school setting was at twenty-two years of age when I wanted to improve my sex life. I made the observation that a certain type of man was getting women and so I made hypotheses and changed my behavior to conduct real-life experiments that resulted in abundant fornication.”
He is talking about how to lay as many women as possible. But the advice works for you. Observe how women with devoted boyfriends and husbands act. Learn through observation how other women create and maintain a relationship and how they lead that relationship to the unnatural institution of marriage. All manner of people from the dentist to the person in the next seat on the plane will willingly tell you their story. Much of the content of this book was gleaned by getting right into the minds of people I meet casually. Last night, Musha from Taiwan told me about the same problem in Taiwan. A Japanese boy told me all about relationship problems in Japan. His concern was that ‘sexual harassment’ rules may make it difficult to find wives as many partner relationships are created in the workplace.
What men don’t like in the words of Tom Richards on Quora:
“Well for many of us good men today looking for a good woman which is like looking for a needle in a haystack since the women of today have really changed from the old days. Women were certainly a lot easier to meet in the old days since they were nothing at all like today which now women are very picky, selfish, spoiled, greedy, and very money hungry as well. Times have changed unfortunately and so have the women too.”
In the words of Bold and Determined:
“Most men don’t want an ‘independent, empowered’ woman. That’s code for ‘bitchy slut’ with a chip on her shoulder.”
And another one by Bold and Determined:
“She cannot be a drinker or a smoker or have any tattoos. She cannot have a party girl past, a sordid past, and she cannot have gone out more than a couple times drinking. You cannot turn a whore into a housewife. The more sexual partners she has had the more likely the marriage will end in divorce.”
The first tough advice is from:
Bold and Determined: “The goals of a marriage should be:
1) Minimize the chance of divorce theft and child robbery.
2) Maximize wife’s happiness with her wifely and motherly duties (the complete opposite of everything you will see, read or hear). It’s not about empowerment. (or any other buzzword designed to kill the traditional family) She should be completely devoted to her family. True happiness for a woman comes from her family — it does not come from her career, or her ‘independence’, or her sexually liberated point of view.
3) Have a healthy, happy family with well educated, respectful children — non-sissified sons and girlish daughters with strong family values.” [3]
Quepaso: “ ‘Would you consider yourself a feminist?’ If she replies yes then say, ‘Okay well I’ll let you pay half. I don’t want to offend you.’ ”
Male: “1. Hit on every attractive woman you meet. You will be surprised how many you do actually end up screwing!
2. Get used to rejection and not let it bother you, it will happen a lot!”
I put the last comment in to show that the behaviour of males is encouraged by the willingness of girls to say “Yes”. The book started life after girls regularly questioned me why they could not find boys prepared to commit. A significant component it that girls regularly say “Yes” which reduces the incentive of males to marry. It was marriage that allowed civilisation to be created. It was the harnessing of male energy for the use of women and society that enabled civilisation. Now that the women’s cartel on availability of sex has been broken, it becomes difficult to control males and their lustful enthusiasm. Without subjugating males to work for women for sexual access, women lose their controlling role in society. Women controlled by proxy getting their menfolk to work and run society for their benefit with minimal input.
Bold and Determined on Divorce: “There is no denying that marriage is a very, very bad deal. When you get married you immediately give your wife all the power over your money and your children. ‘No-fault’ divorce really means ‘his-fault’ divorce. If your wife is to decide she wants a divorce she can have all the benefits of being married and none of the drawbacks. Divorce is theft from the man. It’s a redistribution of wealth from men to women. She can live off of your pay-check via alimony and child support and she can keep your children and raise them in a single-mother or step-daddy household. She has the complete and full support of Papa Government behind her. In the eyes of the law, she can do no wrong and you can do no right. And there is nothing you can do about any of that. That’s why you have to choose the right wife in the first place to eliminate much of that risk.
Steps should be taken to minimize the chances of divorce. You must take extra special precaution to choosing the right wife so you can avoid the possibility of a financially devastating and family ruining divorce.” [3]
Until the climate changes, unfortunately, I have to give this advice to young males: “If the girl even mentions the word ‘divorce’, threatens divorce, praises a divorced friend, or thinks that a divorce is a future option, run for your life.” For a marriage to work, neither partner should think of divorce as an option.
Let me tell you a little story to get you thinking. You are at a work function on Friday night. Alcoholic drinks are available. You are in a small group talking with John, James, and Tara. Tara has a half-full glass of champagne. One of the men says to Tara: “You should not be drinking!” and gestures for Tara to give him the champagne glass. Tara gives a sharp look and says that she will drink the champagne. What I didn’t mention was that Tara is seven months pregnant. Who is in the right? Does Tara have the right to drink? Should John request her to stop in this setting?
You must always remember that we belong to a society and we are all affected by the decisions of others. We have to tolerate the alcohol-damaged children of wayward mothers. Does the general public have the right to enforce guidelines on females, particularly when they are pregnant? To whom does the child belong? Does the child belong to the mother? Does the child jointly belong to the mother and father and should the father have some authority over the unborn child? Does the child belong to the community? The child will become a member of the citizenry and so the citizens have some authority over the unborn child. In a civilization, it is quite a complex relationship. In effect, we are all responsible to each other. One day a few years past, a girl that ignored advice not to swill big glasses of white wine as if it was water, finished up in Swan Districts Hospital overnight to have her stomach pumped. I know, I took her there. Was I in the right to advise her not to swill back the wine? When I suggested persuasively not to drink the wine so fast, she smiled and put the glass to her lips. But it was me that escorted her to the hospital for an overnight stay. I had already advised her friends to keep an eye on her because people can drown from their own vomit.
Here is somebody’s version of the good woman:
“A woman who gives her all to her family. One that loves her husband/boyfriend faithfully and unselfishly. A woman who can cook a good hot meal for her family and raise her kids right. Attends all her children’s plays, dances, school projects, and fairs etc. A woman who puts her husband and children’s wants and needs before her own. One that listens to her husbands day and helps her kids with their homework. One that, after a hard day, still ‘loves’ on her husband. A woman who is one-hundred percent involved with the family she created. And I wouldn’t have my life any other way.” [2]
Solomon, the son of David, wrote many proverbs around three thousand years ago. This is one of them from The Old Testament and is found in Proverbs 31 Epilogue:
The Wife of Noble Character
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.
She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.
When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.