Young males have often asked me: “Andy. Where do we find ‘good girls’?” When I probe them on what they mean by a good girl, they reply: “Someone who is not going to sleep with your best friend, the next week.” So there is an apparent lack of trust. A quick search on the internet demonstrates that this is clearly a problem:
Rejection, abandonment, and betrayal are unpleasant wounds from which it can be difficult to recover. Even though a male was trained by his mother to hide his emotions, it does not mean that he is not torn apart inside. Males hurt — they just hide it. They become masters of the ‘straight face’ whilst suffering on the inside. When you ask a male about his feelings, you are asking him to show his emotions. He will feel that he is losing control over himself. Men even hide their emotions from themselves in a form of denial. When they were young, they learned to hide and combat emotions as they were called “sissies”, or “wimps” or “girls”. Sometimes, emotions were punished as bad behaviour. One punter described it this way:
“It’s a bluff. You just need to act unafraid, inside you can still be shitting yourself. Just act like you’re not afraid, it works.”
This trained males to demonstrate, as a matter of pride, that they could take anything thrown at them without reaction. This is useful to girls because they withhold their anger which prevents them lashing out at small provocations. Women very cleverly socialized males by encouraging them to hide their emotions. It was all part of the domestication of males so that they could be trusted to live under the same roof as a female. A man may be torn apart but when asked he says: “I’m fine.” He has learned to dismiss his emotional signals and ‘battle on’. Some males will believe that there is something is wrong with them if they detect feelings. Men can be proud that they are stoic, strong, and reserved. Many, many thousands of men died walking into machine gun fire because someone ordered them to. All part of the training to be protectors.
Here is a woman who is happy to call herself “Mrs.”
Mrs. George de Horne Vaizey: “It seems to be the fashion nowadays for a girl to behave as much like a man as possible. Well, I won’t! I’ll make the best of being a girl and be as nice a specimen as I can: sweet and modest, a dear, dainty thing with clothes smelling all sweet and violety, a soft voice, and pretty, womanly ways. Since I’m a girl, I prefer to be a real one!”
Younger girls like to perceive that others are valuing them. They judge whether they are lovable and worthwhile. Self-esteem is all about how much a person feels that they are worth — and how much that person feels that other people value them. This causes the girl act in a manner to please others. Young girls are good at the job of pleasing and expect the reward of the words: “good job”, “perfect” or “well done”. They like the ‘pat on the back’. Girls will focus on these labels because girls are more emotional. They are fed these “well done” rewards by the education system, the sports environment, and the home environment. Verbal rewards become important. Girls can be exclusively motivated by words of praise. It is a form of self-validation that relies on the words of others. It can make the girl vulnerable. The girl tries to earn the same accolades from their early boyfriend. Is it the best sex that he has ever had? Does she give the best oral sex? The girl is waiting for validation messages from a male. This is not the way to play a male. She has given the male the upper hand. A girl should never do that. Never. She needs to play the relationship the other way around. ‘He is lucky to have her.’ Her desire to be desired has become so ingrained that she is prone to consent to a sexual experience before the time is appropriate. To the male, she becomes an ‘easy lay’ and is not respected. The girl may well have sex in order to encourage a male to like her more or to attempt to make him stay with her. This is playing the game the wrong way around.
Body image for a girl is shaped by her need to be liked. Her perceptions of her worth come from others. This includes cultural issues and societal norms. She will judge her worth from influences around her. Simple things such as breast size and nose shape can cause girls to feel negatively about themselves. If a skilled male gives her appropriate positive and negative comments, he can manipulate her into activities with which she is not comfortable. That is why a girl was given strict rules to which she was strongly advised to conform. Even so, in past times, she would get intimate whilst straying into areas where she lost logical control when her reptilian instinct took over. Unexpected pregnancies occurred in the old days but the boy was pressured into marriage. As a Muslim said to me once. “We don’t expect our marriage to be perfect, but it is always better than we expect.” And so a happy marriage can eventuate from a scary start. After all, a relationship is only possible when two individuals work together to make the union work. Him looks after her and her looks after him which creates something greater than the sum of two individuals. The girl is prone to think: “I’m too short.” or “I’m too tall.” or “I’m too fat.” or “I’m too skinny.” or “My nose is too big.” or “My nose is too small.” or “My hair is too curly.” or “My hair is too straight.” The negative thinking is destructive to wellbeing. Self-esteem is a measure of how much the girl feels that she is worth combined with how much she perceives that other people value her. Body-image is how she perceives her physical self combined with how she perceives that other people perceive her looks. She is thus comparing herself to others including images in the media. Girls often say “They are small.” referring to their breasts. One has to wonder whether social media is to blame for the worsening mental health of teenage girls? Research by the Department of Education found that the mental well-being of teenage girls in Britain is worsening. By studying the views of fourteen-year-old pupils in 2005 and 2014, the study found that thirty-seven percent of girls suffer from psychological distress. (Thirty-four percent in 2005.) The figure was fifteen percent for boys in 2014. (Seventeen percent in 2005.) There was concern that young girls had a limited capacity for self-regulation and were susceptibility to peer pressure which put them at risk of having bad experiences online which could negatively affect their development into healthy adults and might lead to depression. I often wonder what life was like before some clown invented the mirror. The average human would never know what their face looked like. It was then difficult to have issues with body image. The modern world is full of stunning images which a girl should aspire to. She forgets that we live in a real world with real girls and boys. A boy often doesn’t choose the best looking girl because she is perceived as trouble. He also looks past a few blemishes. It is captured in the song by Jimmy Soul:
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall
As soon as he married her and then she starts
To do the things that will break his heart
But if you make an ugly woman your wife
A-you’ll be happy for the rest of your life
An ug-a-ly woman cooks meals on time
And she’ll always give you peace of mind
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
Don’t let your friends say you have no taste
Go ahead and marry anyway
Though her face is ugly, her eyes don’t match
Take it from me, she’s a better catch
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
Say man!
Hey baby!
I saw your wife the other day!
Yeah?
Yeah, an’ she’s ugly!
Yeah, she’s ugly, but she sure can cook, baby!
Yeah, alright!
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
[Songwriters: Carmela T. Guida / Frank J. Guida / Joseph F. Royster. Copyright: Universal Music Publishing Group.]
By choosing the prettiest wife, a male is inviting interest from other males. This will make her conceited and may draw her away from the male in times of relationship stress. Anyway, this was meant to give the less attractive girls some confidence that their looks may not be a handicap. Neither do all males want large breasts. Small perky breasts can be extremely exciting to many males. Shape and delicate curves can be more appealing than what some men describe as: “great big water bags”. I hear males say things similar to: “with a pretty woman you’ll always have to be on guard.” Daniel puts it this way:
“Yes, you want somebody who looks good by your side, but you don’t want a beauty queen either — pure trouble that. The woman has to be somewhere in the middle and not be too bad to look at though.”
In the animal kingdom, males and females rely on external traits, such as the size, shape, and colour of adornments to choose mates. This might include: colours, symmetry, fur, fins, feathers, and shape. Detecting character was not so important in our reptilian past. Interaction is also important. This is why I prefer to take young ones on wine tours rather than to nightclubs. Nightclubs are one-night-stand pickup joints. On wine-tours, couples can create relationships based on conversation. At church events, relationships can be created on the ability to cooperate. We need a more varied range of activities where males and females can interact such that they can pair. We need to de-emphasize the importance of attractiveness. It is not clear how we generate our standards for attractiveness. They may be historical or they may be learned. They can be quite different between males and females. The expression ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’ suggests that judgment of beauty is not universal. The Scottish philosopher David Hume [1711-1776] suggested that beauty “is no quality in things themselves: it exists merely in the mind which contemplates them; and each mind contemplates a different beauty”. In essence, beauty is what you believe beauty to be. A girl that plays eye games with me is always beautiful. Sometimes, I say: “Did God make women beautiful — or did God make man’s mind believe that women are beautiful.” I do notice that a male will choose an appropriate girl amongst those available. So if he lives in a country full of ugly girls, he will choose a better looking ugly girl. If he lives in a country full of beautiful women, he will try to choose a reasonably good looking one. He will be unlikely to befriend the best looking girl, partly because he does not think she would choose ugly him and partly because he would perceive that there would be too much competition for the best looking girl. Thus, it is pointless for a girl to be amongst many other good looking girls. Go somewhere where there is less competition. She also need not try to be the best looking as she will likely receive less attention. Her efforts to beautify may make her look ‘high maintenance’. I really cannot contemplate being with a girl that takes forever to prepare. Natural for me, thanks very much. The male tends to look straight past a few blemishes.
Darwin also commented on cultural differences in preferences in skin colour, body hair, body fat, teeth, and lip decoration. [4]
“It is certainly not true that there is in the mind of man any universal standards of beauty with respect to the human body” [4]
When I am traveling, I sometimes wonder if a person’s concept of beauty is related to a racial origin or locality and whether one’s judgment of beauty is altered by living in a region of different looking people. When on holiday, when I was young with my parents, my mother would ask us to decide if a person was a button of a horse. People with round faces were buttons and people with long faces were horses. But I cannot say whether horses or buttons are more beautiful. On another holiday, some Nepalese boys were telling me how beautiful the Burmese girls were. I’m damned if I could tell the difference.
There are downfalls to early sex. Younger females sleep with males for various reasons which include: making an effort to find love, to generate self-worth, to demonstrate that they are ‘liberated’, to follow the local trend, and gain peer acceptance. The peer may be a male. These early relationships are likely to lack long-lasting love and are prone to reduce their self-worth. When the girl hands him her precious possession, her virginity, she is possibly dreaming of a very long-term relationship. However, this relationship is likely to be short-lived. Boyfriend and husband are entirely separate relationships. One does not necessarily lead to the other. One of the main problems with Satan’s Pulpit, which includes movies, television, and music as well as the ‘safe sex’ message, is that sex is portrayed as no more than a physical act. Sex always affects the emotions, particularly in a girl.
One Christian religious website describes the current situation as: “Sex outside of marriage (fornication) is having a devastating effect on the world today.” Fornication is the religious term for sex outside of marriage. Cary Schmidt says: “In all of my counselling, I never meet people who are glad that they have committed fornication. After the fact, there is ALWAYS regret.” Here are some commonly cited reasons for avoiding premarital sex:
We were created to bond. We were designed to connect with another human so that we created a couple for the purposes of procreation. Our hormones cause us to stick with a partner. However, we have a choice, we can copulate with many or we can pair bond and copulate with one. Civilization can only operate on the pair bonding system. Copulating with many will cause the destruction of society. Those scientists in white coats seem to think that when we have multiple sexual partners we lose our ability to properly bond. As we bond and break, bond and break, bond and break, our ability to appropriately bond is reduced. [6] This graph shows how an increased number of sexual partners results in a greater chance of marital breakdown.
Here is a blog editor’s reply to a girl who will remain a virgin until marriage:
“Dear Perpeech Michelle, you are a very nice girl and your questions are very important. First, you are asking ‘How far can you go without having sex’? How much fondling, kissing and other things can you allow a guy to keep him happy just as long as you don’t have sex? In other words, is it ok to allow a guy squeeze your breasts and puts his tongue into your mouth etc? The simple answer is NO, Michelle. ‘It is not right to arouse what is not licit to satisfy.’ Biologically, guys are sexually aroused faster than girls, and a little touching might mean nothing to a girl but can send a guy shooting up, and charged. Why would you want to tempt a monkey with banana if you are not going to allow him to eat it? Most girls make that mistake. They dress indecently, exposing cleavages and flesh, and are surprised if he is demanding sex. You make it harder for your boyfriend to wait till marriage by encouraging fondling and kissing. These actions naturally lead to sex, and you should avoid them if you wish to keep your virginity till your wedding night.
Secondly, if a guy doesn’t have patience and self-control, he is not a real MAN, he will not be successful in life, business or sports, he will make you miserable. He will not make a good husband for you. So, rather than sad, you should be happy that you have a process of selections that will ensure that whoever you marry will be a real MAN, capable of making money to take care of you. He will be a failure in life. Dump and find another.
Lastly, Michelle, though most guys would want to have sex with girls who dress casually exposing body parts and who allow them to fondle and finger them, they are more excited by girls with twinkling eyes with slender ankle peeking out from the long skirts and want to marry them.”[3]
The reality is that when a man meets a girl that refuses to have sex until marriage, he can be fairly confident that she will maintain fidelity after marriage. One divorced male said: “Everyone has to watch their ass all the time.” Under sexual promiscuity, there is a constant nagging feeling that no one is safe — even in marriage. Marriage partners even start to be concerned about fidelity even when nothing is happening. There is an air of distrust. Sexual liberty creates distrust. Why would one commit if there is no commitment? Even the doubt is damaging. Partners describe keeping an eye on their partners’ mobile phones and emails because they are wary of messages from exes. There is a lack of trust that their partner is going to remain in the marriage partnership.
There is no magic that will discourage a couple’s distrust and cynicism about a set of marriage vows when they know that each partner previously moved from one sexual relationship to another without ever getting emotional. To achieve our aspirations for a lifelong love and a stable family, we need social permission to date without immediately having sex.
The term ‘good girls’ refers to young women that would be generally considered to have ‘good morals’. This takes us round in a circle because we then have to ask what we mean by ‘good morals’. So what do we mean by ‘good girls’? On this occasion, the disrespectful ‘Urban Dictionary’ comes to the rescue:
“A girl, usually a teen or young adult, that is still a virgin by choice. They rarely curse, are super respectful, kind, courteous, and usually intelligent. They want to try and wait until marriage to have sex or, at the very least, until they are in a committed relationship for a relatively long period of time.” [4]
The issue of premarital sex needs to be clarified. One cannot take an entirely puritanical stance on this. Nobody is to be condemned for having premarital sex. It is highly recommended to avoid sex until marriage. However, a marriage involves the relationship between a boy and a girl and, as such, one can expect them to be inexperienced. How is a girl to know, that her logical defences are almost entirely useless when she is physically close to a male that she likes? The possibility of nature taking control and allowing intercourse is ever present. It is called “getting carried away in the moment.” The girl may make the logical decision to say “no”, but her reptilian instincts take control as on the ‘Discovery Channel’. Again the reptile brain conflicts with the neocortex and on this occasion, the reptile brain wins.
There must always be an escape clause for they inexperienced young. The escape clause is “If you get me pregnant — you marry me.” This must be supported by the family, community, and church. My message is:
Intimately close means kissing and cuddling. The marriage is to be considered as started as soon as a couple declare their marriage. The church formality is simply a formality. The state is but an ignorant formality. The couple is to be treated as a married couple from the moment they declare their mutual support for life. Sex is part way there. If not for condoms, sex between a couple means that they intended to have a child and thus they have an indelible relationship. A child means that you are permanently tied to that sex partner in an unbreakable relationship. Thus, never have sex with someone that you are not prepared to have a permanent bond. In man talk: “You can’t unfuck a girl!”
Here are some comments and descriptions for ‘good girls’:
Males that are keen to find a wife, look for a ‘good girl’. However, there are numerous pressures on girls to be other than a good girl. Males looking for plentiful sex will pressure a girl to lower her ‘good girl’ resolve. A skilled male is remarkably capable of doing this. The feminists also put pressure on girls by claiming that a girl is not ‘liberated’ if she is not screwing the occasional male. Males can also play on this line by suggesting to girls that she is out of line with modern thinking if she refuses sex. The destigmatization of sex for women has created a situation where every woman is technically available for sex. There is no religious or societal expectation that she should refrain. Society is saying that she is free to have sex with whoever she wishes, whenever she wishes. A male thus sees every woman as a potential root. In the eyes of a virile male, every woman he meets is a potential fuck. If he is game, he can push his luck and hope for a ‘yes’. Sexual liberation entitles him to ‘put the word’ on any woman to see if she matches the demands of the feminists. In the logic of feminists, one cannot claim to be liberated, and thus a feminist, if one does not have sex when one wants it. Sex is no longer confined to dating couples, it is all part of ‘freedom’. It is almost an expression of freedom. “Look at me. I’m free. I fucked the football team this week!” All that is required is ‘consent’. Under woman’s logic, how can you prove that you are a feminist if you do not demonstrate your liberty by giving consent. The next level of logic is that the destigmatization of sex has elevated women’s status as sex objects. Young women bear the brunt of the madness as they are the most desired. They are not wise to the situation they face. At eighteen, they are the hottest objects on the planet in the eyes of males. But the males know that they can have her for sex and that commitment is not a feminist requirement as it was under Christian Patriarchy. They are now sex objects under feminism whilst they were potential partners under Christian Patriarchy. This is enough to bring the average girl to tears. She enters a confusing world where she wants a relationship but enters a strange environment where she is assumed to be a sex object to match what a boy shows her is happening on his computer screen. “This is what sex is!” as he shows a video clip of some pretty girl with a frightened smile bringing a male to an orgasm with her lips. Why doesn’t the bewildered girl get out of there as soon as she felt uncomfortable? He told her this was normal and feminism told her that she was ‘liberated’ to do this and no responsible adult gave her instructions otherwise. She ignores her discomfort and continues. When the girl is young, she can only judge sex by the level of hurt. Sexual Liberation gave males a sense of entitlement. The illogic is that women can have as much sex as they want. Thus, enterprising men can have as much sex as they want under equality. It might as well be ‘good sex’ as ‘taught’ by pornography. How is a young male to know better. He is also new to the world of destigmatized ‘free’ sex. He is adventurous and is discovering the ins and outs of sex from a liberated girl as an ‘equal’. Why would a male not try to have as much sex as possible with a liberated female? Feminism made sex free, let’s enjoy this ‘free’ resource. Is not ‘liberation’ all about freedom? Under liberation, males changed from looking for one life partner to looking for the next one-night-romp. That is the nature of freedom.
Here are some comments about girls dropping their knickers:
Let us consider the way the mating game is playing at present. Girls can bed as many men as they like by the age of eighteen. They can have a new man each week if they so wish. They are temporarily powerful. The boys at eighteen are non-entities. Boys need to wait until they are twenty-eight before they get the privilege of girls queuing to go out with them. Girls are at peak desirability by the age of eighteen. An eighteen-year-old girl calls the shots on the love market. She is at peak beauty and she gets whatever she wants wherever she goes. Boys at eighteen are lucky if they get a peck on the cheek. They are scrawny, inexperienced, inarticulate, and poor. Boys begin to look manly at twenty-one and handsome by twenty-four but, at the age of twenty-eight, they have the attributes that are desirable to girls. At twenty-eight, they are manly, experienced, and have some financial backing. Boys now get the pick of the girl market. Girls are beginning to look a bit wasted at twenty-eight. He even has the eighteen-year-old-girl chasing him. He can now leave the twenty-eight-year-old girls to the balding forty-year-old males. The girl that rudely rejected him ten years ago is of no interest to him as he takes younger virile girls for a ride. At twenty-eight, the male has a much larger range of girls to choose from. At twenty-eight, the enterprising male can bed a new girl each week, if he so wishes. If he is very enterprising, Monique can be his Monday girl. Wendy can be his Wednesday girl. Freda can be his Friday girl, which still leaves Saturday for partying and chasing girls! Older girls have lost their place on the desirability scale as they are outclassed by younger girls in their teens and low twenties.
The sensible girl, at around twenty-four, starts to see that the boys have caught up and are continuing to increase in desirability whilst male interest in them is waning. The rare sensible girl starts to manoeuvre a male to accept her for marriage before he wakes up to the smorgasbord of young women available to him and before he realizes that she is rapidly losing desirability. She covers for her failing beauty, her deteriorating attitude in a fight against the biological clock. If she does not get someone tied down reasonably soon, she will be in struggle zone as her desirability continues to plummet. From the age of twenty-eight onwards into his thirties is an excellent time for an enterprising male as he can bed endless girls. From twenty-eight onwards is a miserable time for girls. They no longer command attention as public attention shifts to the younger girls and they become less visible. In another classic case of illogic, the male was previously criticized for being interested in her as a girl and now he is criticized for not being interested. I often say that woman’s real problem does not start until men are not interested in her. The girl at this age can still find nightly bed partners, but not marriageable bed partners. She made the usual stupid mistake of assuming that the good times would continue. I’ll say that a gain because it is important. She made the usual stupid mistake of assuming that the good times would continue. She thought it was acceptable to lay and reject males as unworthy of them when she was young but, at twenty-eight, she gets upset when the boys start to lay and reject her. She is now being rejected by males in the same manner that she rejected boys when she was eighteen. I have seen it too often. A girl rejects a marriage proposal from a very good twenty-four-year-old suitor when she was twenty-four, because she had better things to do like work, work, and work, only to find that at twenty-eight she cannot even find some male to take her out on a date, let alone lay her, or marry her. At thirty-eight she convinces herself that she never wanted to marry anyway and all she wanted was to work, work, work. She believed what the feminists told her. At seventy-eight, she has neither children nor grandchildren to visit her. She is now a full sixty years past her eighteenth birthday and she has lived a barren fruitless life because she believed the anti-family propaganda and spent her early twenties in an alcoholic haze being rooted by men whose name she could not even remember the next morning, let alone sixty years later.
The male can continue to lay and reject females until he is forty whence he can choose one of the twenty-eight-year-old girls that still looks acceptable and marry her. He has a wife ten years younger than himself, so he feels virile until she starts to ban sex believing she has the right to do so. He has inadvertently married a girl that wants no sex and puts him down in front of the children. When she reaches forty-five, her café fiends persuade her to abandon him. She abandons him. Young males hear about this behaviour and see the abandonment of males which makes them thoroughly sceptical about the institution of marriage which makes it even more difficult for young females to find a partner.
The message in this story is that girls need to find a husband before they are twenty-four. They need to marry before they deteriorate and before he reaches his peak desirability. She marries whilst her value is high and before she fades and she marries him whilst his value is low, knowing that his will rise. Some say the biological clock starts to tick when girls get to thirty. I say it starts at eighteen.
Of interest, older males remember what their woman looked like when they first met, so when he is aged, he still sees the wide-eyed young girl that he fell for all those years ago. He does not see her as the wrinkled old prune sitting next to him. The time for a girl to marry a man is in her low twenties. She falls for the best she can attract at that age. To get the best she can manage, she avoids sleeping around.
A few persons draw graphs to demonstrate their opinion about the changes in desirability with age. Some call it “Sexual Market Value”. Here is a graph of ‘Desirability’ from ‘The Rational Male’:
The young girls need to know this before they learn the tough realities. Before they find themselves at twenty-eight facing a life of childless singledom. In the above graph, the author has suggested that the SMV for girls is massive during the years eighteen to twenty-three and then tails off dramatically. Her bargaining power is greatest in this age range. A man’s SMV is low and slowly rises to a peak at about twenty-eight and then gradually falls until he is in his fifties and sixties. A male in his fifties still has a reasonable SMV whilst a woman is all but invisible. Females need to capitalize on their sexual market value whilst it still has some value. Waiting until your thirties to start looking for a permanent partner is a terrible idea for women. It is a big mistake of girls to leave mate finding until they are past their peak SMV at about twenty-three. If you’ve got a good man — marry him. You won’t get many chances under the madness of feminism, social justice, and ‘Political Correctness’. In fact, I think you will only get one chance. I talked to a good looking girl last week of twenty five. She has never had a boyfriend! Under feminism, you are lucky to find a boyfriend, let alone someone prepared to risk marriage.
Mr. Phoenix makes a comment:
“I noticed that Korea has apparently adopted that Western idea, and that the ‘age of marriage’ now seems to be about 35. They are headed for a demographic disaster if they widely adopt that practice.”
If girls leave birth too late, it affects the demographics of the nation. Strangely, I hear more males discussing the influence of birth rates and population maintenance.
The manosphere is an unstructured collection of blogs, forums, and websites where mostly male commentators discuss issues relating to males, masculinity, and the effect of relationships on the future of civilization. They discuss a term called: ‘Sexual Market Value’ which is meant to encompass an overall sexual value of a woman or a man based on various characteristics that are not clearly defined but probably encompass long and short-term breeding-prospects, desirability, male provisioning capacity, female fertility, sexual desirability and availability, and possibly some other features. It is thus conceptual and is typically graduated from one to ten. ‘Sexual Market Value’ does illustrate the situation well. Male desirability is as perceived by females and female desirability is as perceived by males. In the simplest terms, it is the perceived desirability of a person to the opposite sex particularly with regards to marriage. It is not the same as ‘looks’ which also gets graduated from one to ten. ‘Looks’ plays a bigger role in the activities of one-night-stands. ‘Sexual Market Value’ has more to do with long-term suitability for marriage. The graphs effectively show an average for the age of a person, ‘Sexual Market Value’ depends on other factors including attitude, sexual history, employment, prospects, assets, and looks. A woman’s ‘Sexual Market Value’ is more dependent on looks, fertility, age, sexual history, and character and is little influenced by career and assets such as a house. A man’s ‘Sexual Market Value’ is heavily influenced by assets such as a house and earning potential.
The bargaining procedure is fascinating. A fit and athletic girl with a pleasant disposition in her low twenties can command a high price from her suitors. She can demand much more from the male than looks. He needs to bring other valuable items to the table. This might include respect, attention, commitment, a house, income, status, personal characteristics and general employability.
Girls make a general mistake. In their very low twenties, they don’t see the boys of similar age as particularly high value. However, the boys have an accumulated future value higher than their future value. She needs to tie him down before he outclasses her on ‘accumulated future value’. If she lets the relationship drift out until she reaches twenty-eight, younger girls will start to make eyes at him and she will be ditched. Marriage will lock him into a relationship permanently even whilst his ‘Sexual Market Value’ exceeds hers for the rest of her life.
By the age of twenty-eight, a female’s decline in desirability has accelerated. The girl may remain stunningly attractive and vivacious in her post-peak years, but she is now competing against girls in their low twenties. Her decline becomes progressively more noticeable. There is an intensifying competition for suitable mates as the girl ages. Between twenty-six and thirty are stressful years for a girl as she realizes that they must change her party attitude to a long time strategy. But alas, these days, it is too late. My experience in the field is that this is becoming seriously more problematic. Even the eye-catching girls are telling me that they cannot find boyfriends.
This is a similar graph by a different author. The author puts a far higher peak on the girl’s desirability. Her peak is shown as twice the males peak desirability. This is probably closer to the truth.
This author believes that there is a trade of what he calls ‘future RV’. He is suggesting that the trade between a man and a woman is the remaining ‘future RV’. I don’t agree, but the thinking is excellent. I think his ‘future RV’ is being ignored when it should be strongly considered. My logical thinking is that a woman should marry before her desirability falls and before his rises. On logic and by the graphs, a girl should marry by twenty-one or twenty-three or even as low as nineteen. For future harmony, it appears to be appropriate to marry someone of minimal age difference.
It is interesting to look at the rate of decline of women against that of men. Women decline very rapidly. Women’s desirability is primarily based on physical looks and thus causes a much more rapid decline than males. But what is ‘looks’? It may be that the male mind is hard-wired to seek the most fertile female and thus the younger, fitter looking women are the more appealing to the male mind. It may be that nature learned that women went past peak fertility quite quickly and so nature’s heredity trained the male mind to seek fertile young maidens. A male’s decline depends upon his capacity to maintain his looks, health, status, and his ability to provide. It is thus much easier for a male to maintain his desirability. And so female desirability is short and great whilst a male’s desirability moderate and long-lasting.
Unfortunately, education takes women past their peak years into the danger zone. If she falls for the popular propaganda that women should become work-horses for the corporate empire, she is rapidly taken past her used-by date. Education takes males into their peak desirability zone with the added asset of a profession. Making generalizations about differences between males and females can be hazardous in the current climate. Those scientists in white coats now claim that female brains develop up to ten years earlier than males. This might explain some of the differences in graduation rates at schools and university. Male brains continue to develop after they have left university. This puts males at an intellectual disadvantage in the low twenties. [15] However, it means that their intellectual capacity is going to improve if the girl marries him young. He might be a total idiot at eighteen, but he will improve to become an impressive man commanding great respect. Another study claims that men have an eleven year lag behind women when it comes to maturing. According to the scientists, the average man doesn’t reach full emotional maturity until age forty-three, while women mature by age thirty-two. [16] You can shout “hurrah” to women, but it means that men will mature, they just do it later. The male may seem immature when young, but like cheese, he will mature with time. It is going to get better. There is a need to get the males married early. Men improve with age whilst women become less desirable. If men reach twenty-eight and are unmarried, they soon learn how to use their vastly enhanced desirability. At twenty-eight, men have the advantage and will wreak havoc on the dating market without restraint as they make up for the years of rejection by women who previously called him immature. Watch out, for he will have no mercy as you had no mercy for him when you outclassed him on desirability. These late-start male studs are operating in an environment where women are becoming painfully aware of their inability to compete with their younger female competitors. The sexual liberation of females created a sexual nightmare for females and a sexual utopia for enterprising males. Suddenly, all females became available and all that was needed was consent. Consent is easy in a world where her older feminist guides lie to her that it is ‘liberating’ to sleep with males whenever she wants. If she gives way whenever he turns her on, she is enslaved to him. If he gets it, when she decides, then he is enslaved to her.
It is necessary to get males married young so that they do not cause havoc in the marriage marketplace as they are doing at present. Sexual liberation has given males the opportunity to play one girl off against the other. The woman’s cartel on sex and marriage has been smashed. A married man in his low thirties must look in bewilderment at unmarried male friends going from bedroom to bedroom on a daily basis. He married before he knew what potentially lay ahead. As an overweight male at forty-two said to me the other day: “Andy. I’m overweight, bald, and forty-two and I’m having more sex than I’ve ever had in my life.” He uses ‘Tinder’, an online dating app. He sat and showed me how to use it. Images of girls in his chosen region and age range come up full size and he swipes them right or left depending on whether he is interested. He immediately discards them if they don’t match his desired looks. He showed me: Discard. Discard. Discard. Yes. Discard. He discarded four girls in four seconds!
So let us look at the life of a mid-life single woman. She looks in the mirror to see an old lady. The surprise in the mirror will get older and older. “Yuck”, she says. She is looking plain and aged. She is still looking for a mate with increasing diligence. She made a few mistakes in the past. She let a good man go at twenty-four. He was mad keen on her and wanted to marry, but she rejected him on the basis that her career was offering advancement. She was offered a desk closer to a window with the prized view of a tree and a better position in the car park. She thought there was plenty of time. She happily took the label ‘career woman’ with pride as she had graduated college complete with unpayable debt. She outperformed the men for a few years not realising that the male mind is slower to develop. She mistakenly believed that biology was on her side. Men were interested in her back then. (Under feminist tyranny, ‘interested’ is now classed as ‘harassment’.) She wasn’t going to give in to inferior men in her false pride. She started playing musical chairs but the music has since stopped and no man wants to sit on her lap. All the good men are taken. By whom? — we may ask. By twenty-four-year-olds who were not stupid enough to let their man flee. As I have said: “The easiest thing for a girl to do at present is to pass exams and get jobs. The hardest thing for a girl to do is to find someone prepared to marry her.”
She still seeks a romantic solution. It is not people that are against her, it is nature. Nature catches up fast. At twenty-eight, she realizes that the rules of the game have changed. She is startled by who is available to her. She can only find grey men, empty suits, old farts, and males in terrible shape who are self-absorbed and boring. She played the game when she was younger. She relished the male attention but she forgot that the jar of fertility has an end-by date on the label. She was addicted to the male attention. She could wrap males around her little finger. They did whatever she wanted. But no more. She does not even get the chance to do what they want. These grey old men can sit in a darkened room late at night and enjoy twinkle-eyed girls looking into their eyes smiling whilst working wonders on private parts from the screen of a computer. The porn substitutes for the real thing and destroys that which drives males to pursue females.
Why would he date a thirty-five-year-old? As a girl, she reads romantic novels, where the male serves her every wish. He is the ideal male from the point of view of a woman. It makes her dream of meeting the ideal male that will carry her blissful through life and service her every need. But this is la-la land. Why would a male chase a thirty-five-year-old? She gave away the best years of her life. To whom? The party boys with their smart lines who disappeared by the next morning to text their mates about last night’s conquest. The boys nicknamed her: ‘The Screamer’. She thought she could keep one, but she was competing against girls that say: “Yes”. Whatever level of sexual technique she mastered to pleasure these males, it was never enough to hold the males. The males would boast that they found a girl that gave the best blowjob. He got the kudos for finding her. Her sex was free and the porn is free.
She thought her liberation gave her ‘rights’. She has found that males have rights as well and one of them is to not get married. This was overcome in the past by refusing males sex until marriage or a committed promise of marriage in an environment where he could not go back on his word. Men have rights too. Women might be saying: “Yes”, but the men are saying: “No” — to marriage.
Women’s liberation had surrendered the main source of woman’s power — access to sex. The illogical gain was movement from the kitchen to corporate work-donkey and replacement of loving ‘oppression’ by a husband to no willing work-slave of a husband. Freedom from the kitchen could have been worded: ‘Freedom from family’. And freedom from oppression by a husband is the freedom of males not to be trapped into a marriage. And not to be trapped into a mortgage. Women can now get into debt to the usurers for thirty years. What a win for women — subordination to the money-lenders. Sexual liberation has become the freedom of males to be untethered and play havoc in a free-for-all sexual smorgasbord. He can sit at his phone and swipe left or right on women’s looks alone, drive across town, sweet-talk her, convince her that he is not using her, and get better sex with someone’s ex-wife than he did with his ex-wife. He can do what he likes with impunity. No longer does he have to hear: “Not tonight dear. I’m tired.” He just gets on a dating app and drives to the other side of town.
She realizes that she cannot trap a man into marriage. She wants a man to be a man. But, by that, she means that she wants him to do what she wants. She wants him to provide the trappings of life. When she says she wants a “man to be a man”, she is describing man in terms of female requirements. Manliness, before feminism, meant that he looked after his woman. After feminism, it changed. How many women does he fuck? How many women has he fucked? Women started that game by giving it away for free. In the words of one married man:
Sam: “I have a mortgage, a child, a career, and I’m not free at all. I get up every morning, go to work, do what the boss says, pick the kid up from school, etc. And if I decide to chuck the job, I’d lose the house, maybe the marriage, family... So I’m trapped. Not that I’d trade it away, but the fact is we give up a lot of freedom when we take on the responsibility of a middle-class life. We become slaves to our commitments and to the cost of losing what we’ve taken years to build up.”
He possibly doesn’t even get sex. Why would a male lose his freedom to a thirty-four-year-old? He might lose it to a twenty-four-year-old. She realizes that her biggest mistake was at twenty-four when she chose career over a devoted male. She now wakes up in an empty bed to ponder her empty nest. She complains about men and their virtual robots but she uses one herself that uses a battery. She has a robotic man or at least the important part of him. She used the freedom to dump her lover at twenty-four. She thinks she is free but she lost the freedom to marry, have children, and do housework. She lost the freedom to live and love with a man. What is freedom? A freed slave is free to starve if he cannot find work. (Hundreds of thousands of slaves freed during the American civil war died from disease and hunger after being liberated. [20] Freed slaves were often neglected by society or faced rampant disease, including smallpox and cholera. Many of them simply starved to death. About a quarter of the four million freed slaves either died or suffered from illness between 1862 and 1870. [Jim Downs] [20]) A freed woman is free to live a life of loneliness. She has joined the ‘childless generation’. She belongs to the quarter of child-free women who regret their decision once they were past child-bearing age. It even has its own classification: ‘childlessness depression’. Melanie Notkin writes:
“there were times, lonely days and nights, when I would cry. I would sob. I would lie in bed awake for hours, tears running onto my pillow. ... I now know the grief was over being childless, or more poignantly, over the loss of the baby I never held in my arms. By that point in my life I had expected to be married and a mother to at least two kids. I was far from it, still very single, no kids. Passing by a new mother and her infant ... would rattle my womb. ...I was mourning the loss of one more chance at the family life I always dreamed of.” [Psychology Today]
Feminism has caused nothing but grief, misery and desperation for women.
Our desperate ex-partygirl gets upset when her friends are on their third pregnancy. Being single can create more anxiety in life than any other factor. She reaches forty and finds herself unmarried, no children, a career in shambles and a mortgage that may fall into arrears. The decision to delay marriage may seem popular at the time, but once you reach a certain age without having children, there is no going back. One old bird writes:
“When I graduated from high school in 1958, many of the women (girls, really) in my class married right away — some within a week or so in weddings they had planned throughout our senior year. Two or three were already pregnant and the rest couldn’t wait to become mothers, as was generally expected of us in those days.”
I get the impression that they were free to choose so. They clearly had unprotected premarital sex. Their joy was in motherhood and they managed to avoid the oppression of real work. They oppressed the male by sending him out to work and collecting the wage packet at the end of the week.
Now I will let a lady by the name of Jojo have a rant:
Jojo: “What could be better from man but his protection and love! It is all this feminist propaganda that has made the traditional patriarchal love so despised. How irrational is hating love! Patriarchy really should not be a dirty word. It should really be respected. Feminism has taught women that ‘independence’ is good. I mean, ‘independence’ for what? ‘Independence’ to fornicate, commit adultery, and to work for a man who does not care for you, only wants you to make a profit for him, and who gets rid of you when you are no longer ‘useful’. Frankly, the success of feminism among young women really calls into question their ability to think rationally. Feminism is truly satanic brainwashing, and also of the spirit of Jezebel. It destroys. The more I think about it, the whole idea of a ‘career’ is just a lie. The true purpose of work is to provide for one’s family and oneself. To treat work as something other than that is to idolise work, and the utter failure to trust in God’s provision. One will be in bondage to money and seeking success as a result. That is why feminism and materialism go hand in hand. Feminism thrives on materialism, which is of the spirit of mammon, which tells women that they need to be economically ‘independent’ of man, and compete with him — only to end up being a lonely old woman in a nursing home who has no family, whether it be husband and children, or a church family, that is the Christian community.”
She continues:
Jojo: “And it is most exhilarating to not be in bondage to the lies of feminism, not that I have ever accepted feminism. I’ve always been skeptical about feminism, probably because I am from a non-westernised non-western conservative Christian family. The more I learn about feminism, the most despicable and ugly it truly is. And the more I see that it is a lie.”
A lady, K.Q. Duane, who champions a Christion website, replies:
K. Q. Duane: “Distressingly, the most advanced, prosperous and peaceful Christian cultures in human history are the very same countries that have fallen victim to, and been ravaged by, anti-Christian radical, second-wave feminism. My generation of baby boomers, primarily the women, are to blame. Rather than uphold the centuries-old Christian traditions of our ancestors, we foolishly chose hedonism. And for our sins, our once illustrious countries are being destroyed from within, and by our own hands, while we continue to fiddle as Rome burns to the ground. If it weren’t so disturbing, it would be laughable. We have betrayed our God, our countries, our families, and ultimately, ourselves, as have no other women in history. ...
Why anyone would deliberately choose to deny themselves Christianity’s innate happiness always confounds me.”
Jojo: “I knew there was something wrong with feminism, and how it talks about ‘equality’ but yet is so competitive, trying to be more superior than men.”
K. Q. Duane: “I honestly believe most male ‘feminists’ have had no luck with women and just hope, by ‘friendly’ association, to get lucky. I don’t believe they become feminists to avoid the patriarchal employment responsibilities associated with marriage and children either. They could avoid those responsibilities by simply not marrying in the first place. I also don’t believe any healthy male deliberately sets out to become a ‘kept woman.’ I think this is another lie promulgated by the feminists to demean men in the eyes of young women.”
We should never forget that fertility has a limited lifespan. The chance of conceiving quickly depends on a female’s age. Females are most fertile between the ages of twenty and twenty-four [14]. It can take significantly longer to get pregnant when you hit your late thirties or forties. The female may have problems conceiving at all. Here is a graph of the likelihood of pregnancy in any month:
The girl is likely to die a lonely old woman in a wheelchair in a nursing home with no one to visit them. The change in fertility alters the graph of desirability:
There has been an incredible change in the popular thinking on moral values. Women were previously able to counter male power by aligning with the Church and the social standards about the implications of the behaviour of an honourable gentleman. By implying that an honourable male acts in a certain way towards women, the behaviour of males was controlled. Those influences on male behaviour have largely disappeared as people took to the propaganda of feminism. It became difficult for females to reign in male lust under feminism because it was declared to men that all women were liberated and were thus available for sex without restriction other than an obligatory ‘consent’. Consent from society was automatically granted by feminism. Consent from the woman was expected under feminism. The pressure on young girls to ‘let loose’ was immense. The demand of gentlemanly manners as required under Christianity evaporated. It became very difficult for women to claim the right to chastity because feminism said it demanded equality and freedom to have sex whenever and wherever. Although these girls can obtain sex any time they want, they lost the ability to draw a man into their sphere in a marriage contract where the male entirely lost the ability to be free to do as he wishes. A female’s complaints about male behaviour becomes less credible after she has admitted to similar behaviour. Once she has given herself freely to one male, the pattern is developed and she might as well taste all the men in the town. But the consequences are not good if she expects one of them to act differently and be loyal to her whilst her history shows no loyalty.
The increase in premarital sex under feminism has created secondary problems. Girls that build up a list of sexual partners have a statistical problem of incompatibility in marriage. Statistics show that only two percent of couples who waited until marriage for sex end up in divorce. Over fifty percent of couples who did not wait end up in divorce. [11] Premarital sex can also cause damaging emotional effects on a young female. Depression is a common occurrence among girls partaking in teenage fuck-fests.
According to the Chastity Project, a site worth visiting:
“Girls who are sexually active are more than three times as likely to be depressed as girls who are abstinent. [7] In fact, the condition has become so predictable that the American Journal of Preventive Medicine recommends to doctors: ‘[Girls who are engaging in] sexual intercourse should be screened for depression, and provided with anticipatory guidance about the mental health risks of these behaviours.’ [8] Even if a girl experiments with sex once, research shows an increased risk of depression. [9] Also, consider the fact that the rate of suicide attempts for sexually active girls (aged twelve to sixteen) is six times higher than the rate for virgins. [10] Tragically, these girls do not realize the purity, hope, and forgiveness that they can find in Christ.”
Here are some comments from girls that had wished they had kept their virginity:
“I am sixteen and have already lost my virginity. I truly regret that my first time was with a guy that I didn’t care that much about. Since that first night, he expects sex on every date. When I don’t feel like it, we end up in an argument. I don’t think this guy is in love with me, and I know deep down that I am not in love with him either. This makes me feel cheap. I realize now that this is a very big step in a girl’s life. After you have done it, things are never the same. It changes everything.” [19]
K: “I wish I hadn’t been drunk.”
Cate: “I was way too young and not ready at all. I wasn’t even sure if I truly liked the guy, but I did feel pressured. It happened very quickly and hurt. When I got home, I took a bubble bath and then cried myself to sleep.” [12]
K: “He was not the right person.”
J: “I definitely regret letting myself give in to temptation and believing the lie.”
W: “Yes.....It leads to a world of hurt.”
Britney: “It’s probably the biggest regret of my life.”
T: “You realize the mistake you made and you’ve asked the Lord for forgiveness and worked hard to make sure you don’t allow that to happen again. That is something any man worth his weight will admire.”
O: “Yes, I regret it. Sometimes I get really sad about it, because I’m currently engaged and wish I would have saved it for the night I get married, but life it’s all a learning experience. At least I know better now.”
H: “We both got caught up in the moment and things happened really quickly and suddenly.”
Girls that took the pledge:
S: “At the age of ten, I took a pledge at my church alongside a group of other girls to remain a virgin until marriage.”
Phylicia: “Waiting for marriage to lose my virginity was the best decision I ever made.”
Phylicia: “We should not be committing to purity for the sake of a church. We should commit to purity for the sake of Christ.”
Betty Udochi: “When I have sex for the first time with my husband on our wedding night, I want it to be a joyful crowning of our lifelong commitment in marriage.”
R: “I’d urge you to wait. This is the one sin that you can’t actually fight so are told to flee from it”
A: “Just because you are in a relationship does not justify or mean that sex is a given.”
C: “I learned to value myself more, not let anyone pressure me into having sex, and that I don’t have to have sex with someone just because I’m in a relationship with them.”
Chic: “I realized pre-marital sex wasn’t worth the risk (physically, mentally, spiritually) and that I should take better care of myself.”
Lauren: “When I was fifteen, I signed the pledge to wait to have sex until marriage.”
Men’s thoughts when marrying a girl that has had previous partners:
Cm: “married my wife who was with five men before me and I was aware of this before we married. I knew she was the one God intended for me and I don’t regret marrying her one percent. Her past has been very difficult for me to cope with - but I keep that as my ‘issue’.”
Problems caused by various reasons, pornography, and lack of knowledge:
Kevie: “I honestly wish I knew that it wasn’t actually a requirement to slap her on the ass.”
Amay: “You do not need to completely unravel a condom before you apply it to your penis.”
Serious: “I wish I knew that sex, especially for your first time, isn’t like the movies. There’s going to be clumsy moments, mistakes, awkwardness, etc.”
T: “If you don’t have a condom and she says ‘it’s okay I take the pill.’ do not proceed. Seriously. It’s not only about getting her pregnant and producing a money destroying hell demon, but also STDs and stuff.”
I: “The importance of lubrication.”
J: “There is never enough foreplay.”
Oct: “Pain is NOT a normal effect of having sex for the first time as a girl. If it hurts, you need to stop and have more foreplay and a partner that respects that and has patience.”
R: “That it was okay to say no to my boyfriend.”
M: “Your dick isn’t just going to go in right away, there’s a little work involved. Also, let her know when you’re about to cum, it’s just polite you idiot.”
Sex before marriage evidence:
Programs such as ‘Sex and the City’ influence the minds of girls. This program has a group of middle-aged women that manipulate situations for their benefit. There is never a consideration of the other partner. This is not the Christian way. The Christian way is to look after the interests of others. Others will then look after you. These characters are having sex with strangers on a regular basis without forming relationships. There is a common attitude of: “I don’t care what you think.” Typical of the stupidity are these quotes:
In the current times there is a reduced influence on society from the traditional guidance offered by family, school, and church. Popular culture has dominated the of setting of moral standards. Tonight I took the step of pulling the aux cable on a school ball because the lyrics were so demeaning to females. The students were dressed in the best of suits and evening gowns and the song being played was describing the size of a girls backside and what he was going to do with her backside. One boy apologized for another boys music content but a girl came and objected and stated that: “All music has bad words.” I replied: “No it does not.” They found another phone but that was no better. Every sentence had a swear word. The collection of words influences and alters the young person’s behaviour. Gangsta rappers create a commercially promoted false reality where the lyrics modify an individuals perceptions. Raps tend to be first-person narratives of what the artist’s personal experiences [Light 1992, Steaman 1992, Allen 1996, Snoop Dogg 1999]. Thus, they carry weight. Marshall Mathers threatens violence toward women with his lyrics: “This much of a cocksucker to go across the buttocks of Vivica Fox with a box cutter”. This is commercially available through a private media system that was supportive of feminism. The media, having weakened the normal male, now turns on woman. Women need to beware of the future because the media that championed feminism is now championing violence against women. Here is another that the young males are listening to on their earphones as you walk past them on the street. Men are being taught how to rape via the culture being pushed by Gangsta Rap and the sexual objectification of women by the media and pornography. Little do you know how young male minds are being modified by Gangsta Rap pumped into their minds ready for the apocalypse. They won’t act whilst constrained by law, but wait until society collapses. Squint your eyes to see this naked woman tied between two poles as seen by young males in freely available pornography.
Here is more of the male damaging lyrics:
Slim Shady: “Bitch getter, hid in the bush like Margot Kidder
Jumped out, killed the bitch and did her
Used to let the babysitter suck my dick when I was littler ...
Smoke a blunt while I’m titty-fucking Bette Midler
Slap dips, support domestic violence
Beat your bitch’s ass while your kids stare in silence” [‘Low Down, Dirty’ (The Slim Shady EP, 1997)]
(Margot Kidder, mentioned in the first line, had a nervous breakdown and was found hiding in a bush.) Nobody sang this stuff when I was young, the censors were also strict, no-one would distribute it, and no-one would have allowed it in their house. Music videos now portray black women as little more than eye candy. Violence and sexual harassment against women are common central themes. Talking about ‘Sex in the City’, one girl describes its influence.
“Being a younger girl, I admit I thought it was so ‘cool’ how Samantha was so sexually free and liberated. Men could be objects or toys to her and instead of her getting heartbroken or hung up over one guy who wasn’t in to her, she seemed to be so strong and had men at her disposal. So personally speaking, yes, the show did have influence on how appropriate and socially acceptable it was to be sexually ‘free’ and casual. However, when you’re a young female, without much of an idea of who you really are and what you stand for, being so ‘casual’ about sex and your body can really cause pain, confusion and low-self esteem.” [18]
Regular watching of the soap operas, serial dramas, situation comedies, and advertisements creates a strange version of a social normality and behaviour patterns. The program running as ‘Two and a half men’ portrays the father as an inept goon even though he consciously holds down a good job. He is treated as an idiot for having been stupid enough to marry and have children. The ex-wife is portrayed as a nagging unpleasant woman. The waster scoundrel of a womanizing brother is portrayed as a hero as he beds curvaceous girls on a daily basis. The well-rounded female bed partners convey the message that there is nothing inappropriate about jumping into bed with someone if you feel like it. Programs with explicit sexual behaviour are significant for the attitudes they endorse. For young people, this is a primary source of guidance on behaviour. Adelaide Haynes claims that: “Sex and the City is the modern woman’s answer for a bible.” She continues: “It offers us guidance, reassurance, faith, the promise of redemption and stresses the importance of red wine.” And later: “But Sex & the City ... destroys all sexual stereotypes and taboo. We talk openly about love, life, friends, and family, why not sex?” This sounds logical, but the reason sex was kept taboo was to control male lust. Women could say: “You only think of the ‘s-word’ ”
Having fallen for the ‘sex is fun’ message of the media that destroyed the lives of millions of girls and ground men into the ground, girls can now wait for the next stage of the destruction as Gangsta Rap encourages violence in males towards women. In America, it is noticeable that single-parent households are more prevalent in the black community than in other racial groups.
DontTellAnybody: “one that doesn’t live off the system by choice, one that doesn’t sleep around or cheat on their spouse, doesn’t steal, lie or backstab others, a loving mother/daughter/wife/friend, takes care of their home... exchange the gender and it defines a good man.” [1]
Mythoughts: “...ya can’t trust a junkie.” [1]
Anon: “Tell her straight. You’ll only marry a virgin and you date for marriage.”
Blogger: “A good woman is not a perfect woman, I consider myself ‘good’. Trustworthy honest, hardworking. Loving, but want to be loved and have to KNOW it. A good woman that doesn’t smoke or drink...and I love The Lord and try to be a pretty decent example....that’s me definition” [1]
Male: “Ok so where on earth do you find these good women? Now don’t tell me to just go out and look. Doing that already, been doing it for a long time. After a while a man finally decides there aren’t any.” [1]
The Man: “I soon learned bargirls weren’t for me” [2]
The Man: “I guess so but there is no place where the ‘Good Women’ hang out so it’s hard to ever meet up with them. I know cause I been trying to and haven’t yet. It’s got more to do with pure luck than anything else I guess.” [2]
Anon: “as soon as a woman has had more than one partner her long-term marital stability risk drops to near fifty percent.”
From a male perspective, if she develops an unhappiness, she is more likely to look elsewhere rather than fix the relationship.
At last, we shall look at the title of the chapter. ‘Good Girls led Astray’. Our young adventurous male might mutter:
“I never got it to work with nice girls,” he mumbled.
“But you cannot blame a man for trying.”
Males are coded in their DNA to seek certain features in a female. It is tied into his reptile brain such that if she makes it easy, he takes it easy. If she gives it for free, he takes it for free. If she refuses his advances, then she is a tough nut to crack and it is worthwhile hanging around because it will be equally difficult for another male to impregnate the female. He can ensure that his offspring are brought up to the highest of standards rather than being problem children brought up by a single mother with all the single-mother problems. Evolution has occurred to ensure that the mating process is successful. To that end, males hone in on methods that maximize the chances of success. The reptile brain never adjusted for the condom. So his reptile brain thanks him for his three minutes of debauchery. He might stay the night to ensure copulation success. Spreading seed is what males do. They will lie and cheat and misrepresent to spread that seed. Thankfully, they have been brought up by mothers to revere the female and so force is restrained except in times of war and chaos. The mother’s training to be decent to women is important, but it may only apply to one religion. On New Year’s Eve in Cologne, Germany, a city previously ravished by the bombs of the evil British bombers,
numerous good Christian girls were raped. The men were described as being of ‘Middle-Eastern appearance’. Here is the police log for the city.
The training of young males across different religions is inconsistent. Gadhafi said that “It is better to have only one religion in a nation.” He understood the clash between religions. He threw the Jewish people out of Libya.
People who are easily led astray simply do what the others around them are doing. If the activities are promoted on media, that will lead these young ones astray. “Our television heroes do this, why can’t we?” The music led my generation astray. The pop music arrived in the sixties, however, the words were censored. However, double meanings were common. Rod Stewart sang “Spread your wings and let me come inside.” The song also included the line: “Loosen off that pretty French gown. ... Let me pour you a good long drink. ...Come on angel my hearts on fire. ... Don’t deny your man’s desire.” The suggestive lyrics got the song banned by the BBC. It also contains: “Don’t say a word my virgin child. ... Just let your inhibitions run wild.” I remember thinking that I was not a complete man until I had slept with numerous women. We were led astray. The girls, at the time, went along with the new messages from the new pulpit.
The Bible warns about this. “Many false prophets will arise and will mislead many.” [22] At the Mount of Olives, Jesus answered his disciples: “See that no one leads you astray. For many will come in my name, saying, ‘I am the Christ,’ and they will lead many astray.”
The advent of printing and then cinematography dented women’s cartel on sex. Although, not the same as the real thing, males could get sex other than from women directly. This image is warning girls not to be led astray by the pornographers of Weimar Germany in the 1930s
