Man does not want to come home to a battle-axe that fights him every step of the way, drains his resources, wastes money, makes bad decisions, cheats, goes on social media to talk to exes, and flirts with every male in the office, and neither does the female.
In the current environment, the divorce arrangements overwhelmingly favour the female. Males are almost certain to lose access to the house and half their assets. This may appear to be a win for women, but think again. We may think that this is acceptable to support the women, but the problem is that it makes young males risk averse to marriage. Women are heavily favoured to obtain custody over the children whilst men finish up seeing their children around fourteen percent of the time.
Men receive limited visitation rights but are forced to pay child support even if they did not want the divorce and even if the female takes on new financial support in the form of a lover. Under the Bradly Amendment, this child support and alimony must be even be paid by males that lose their income or even when they become injured. Many a male is languishing in jail for failure to pay and they are not well treated in jail. The divorced male is seriously handicapped and cannot afford not to make money. In the current era of illogic, we get another beauty. Society trained the male to be a provider and protector, which were roles that were dismissed by feminism, the state forced him to be so under the insistence of feminism. This is even the case when a woman that threw him out and shacked up with a new fool. Too often, males are forced to pay child support for children that they did not sire. Various reports state that of the order of ten to twenty percent of children have different biological fathers to the father they believe is their father. It has become the duty of the father to prove that a child does not biologically belong to him. Innocence before guilt no longer applies to males in the family courts.
Here is an example of why males will not marry.
“I was almost forty. Married fifteen years with three kids. Successful business owner. Nice cars and nice house. Vacations. Volunteered as a coach, and our household revolved around kids activities. Proud that my wife was able to stay home with the kids (her desire as well).
Then suddenly....Armageddon. Wife met single dad at kids school. Apparently, he had an ‘aura’ or something. They carried on for months — I, of course, was clueless. When the hammer finally hit my head and all was out in the open, I was in for an even greater shock that I could have ever imagined. Kicked out of my dream house. Ordered to pay wife half a million...either by taking a loan or selling the business. Ordered to pay a combination of alimony and child support that left me in a basement apartment. And the worst part? Paying tens of thousands to a lawyer whose advice summed up as “Suck it up, sunshine. That’s our laws. Doesn’t matter what she did....you pay. And pay”.
Why would any sane man get married?”
These men in this type of story are exceptionally good men who are trying to do their best to be good fathers and husbands. Feminism set up the legal system in a manner that they are ‘lambs to the slaughter’. A few words, true or false by the wife and the man is destitute, devastated, and close to criminalisation. All of society’s religious, political, and moral restraints that discouraged cheating, cuckolding, and divorce have been erased. Here is an anonymous quote on cheating:
Anon: “Ladies, I don’t know of a single case like this where the woman ended up better off or with even anywhere near what she had before cheating. ... My advice? Don’t do it. ... Cheating never goes well. If the marriage survives it’s never the same. If it doesn’t and the cheaters get together they never trust each other. Often the cheaters don’t last past the marriage break up. Those are just three possible outcomes, all losing ones. Cheating. Just don’t let the hamster take you there. ” [Cheating Down at Red Pill Girl. notesfromaredpillgirl.com]
Here is someone’s opinion on divorce:
Anon: “Divorce sucks and is more akin to getting treatment for cancer than having cosmetic surgery.”
Marriage is not a natural phenomenon. It was an invention that allowed the creation of civilisation. Male energy was harnessed for the benefit of society by tying one man to one woman. The networking of women then allowed society to operate for the benefit of women. Patriarchy was the set of rules that commanded men to labour for the benefit of females and offspring. One only needs to think of the plight of women when male power is unchecked as is occurring in the porn industry, in war, and society breakdown. I usually word it this way:
“Everything must be done to keep this relationship together. Nothing must be done to break it apart.”
This means that parents, relations, friends, Church, society, and the state need to keep the relationship working in a harmonious manner by all means possible. Babysitters must be provided so they can go out and rekindle their togetherness. Help must be given to keep the relationship fresh and vibrant. Mothers and grandmothers, in particular, can be very good at this. I sometimes say that a mother’s role is not complete until she is a grandmother. Nothing must be done to break the relationship. I get frustrated when I see woman’s magazines with messages: “Why do other women have better sex!”
Marriage was an invention of civilisation and thus it needs maintenance and society needs to be involved as its creator. Being ‘compatible’ is not enough to keep a marriage in good condition. Under the heartless illogic of the state, marriage maintenance is a financial arrangement where males give money to females. There is no concept of relationship is in the emotionless brain of the illogical state. If one entity of the relationship feels that the closeness is slipping, it is time to take marriage maintenance action. Here are some common ideas on marriage maintenance:
Marriage always was a giving exercise. You may enter for your own reasons, but it finishes up as giving life to new life. Our modern life encourages the use of logic and words, but a relationship relies on perceptions and emotions — not logic. You do not love someone by logic. Emotions may need rekindling. Arguments can only occur under logic but they destroy the emotional connection. There is a need to look after each other’s needs.
Let us study something written by Mr. Regnerus:
“Good husband material doesn’t occur naturally, but is instead the product (in part) of socialization, development, and social control,... In the domain of sex and relationships, men will act as nobly as women collectively demand.”
This has a few parts:
“Good husband material doesn’t occur naturally”
We descend from a line of violent animals. If men are allowed to ‘do as they please’, society will degenerate. So women learned to train them from the earliest of age — the crèche. This is the essential component of ‘The Secret’, the woman’s control system over society. Women do not make all the decisions in society but they set the ground rules — in the crèche. Women maintain entire control over the crèche, as they do over food by control of the kitchen so that males are dependent on women for sustenance. Women maintain control over sex through the ‘power of no’. Men avoid the ‘power of no’ in times of social turmoil and in the land of submissive bondage porn. Porn is giving young males ‘the choice of ‘slaves’ for every desire and completely free. These are obedient slaves who perform anything the male commands! This is completely contrary to the concept of ‘The Secret’.
Mr. Regnerus tells us:
“Good husband material ... is ... the product ... of socialization, development, and social control,...”
The ‘socialisation’ is the training of mothers:
The ‘social control’ is the ‘law of the land’ and the unwritten conventions bound up in ‘culture’. The culture breaks down when large-scale immigration of peoples that do not respect the culture of the original inhabitants and treat the girls of the locals as sexual practice as in ‘Shiksas are for Practice’ and in Muslim invaders teaching their young males that European women ‘are as dirt’ — meaning that they can be mistreated and raped with impunity. Shiksa is defined in the Urban Dictonary as: “A Gentile girl or woman, especially one who has attracted a Jewish man. The term derives from the Hebrew word ‘sheketz’, meaning the flesh of an animal deemed taboo by the Torah. Since a Jewish man marrying a non-Jewish woman is taboo also, this word applies to her.” Wikipedia describes it this way: “ Shiksa refers to any non-Jewish (gentile) woman or girl who might be a temptation to Jewish men or boys, ...”
‘Open Doors World Watch List’ is a comprehensive report identifying the fifty countries where persecution of Christians is most severe. Particularly alarming is the violence suffered by female victims who are ‘double persecuted’ because they are targeted for their Christian faith and their gender. We are talking about countries with a breakdown of social order and a failure of law and order. It is likely that Christian women are the most vulnerable people in the world at present. Data indicates a dramatic increase in rapes, harassment, and forced marriage in countries in the Middle East and Northern Africa particularly where Islamic extremists have some control. Thus the welfare of women relies on their male offspring looking after their interests. This requires mothers to adequately train young males to look after the interests of females. Hounding the men in western society is going to backfire on western women. David Curry on Fox News reports that: “There are countless stories of how women, Christians specifically, are at increasing risk of being raped, assaulted, or coerced into forced marriage. ... Women are sometimes sexually assaulted to bring shame upon them and to effectively isolate them as ‘tarnished’ or ‘impure.’ Tragically, in these regions, rape is wielded as a method to punish those who follow Jesus and to reproduce children who can be raised as radical Muslims, according to Sharia Law.” Raymond Ibrahim on Gatestone Institute reports that: “Christian girls are only meant for one thing, the pleasure of Muslim men”
This means that women have lost the ‘power of no’. The ‘power of no’ only lasts as long as women have sway over males. This requires control over the crèche. As soon as moral bankruptcy is detected in the activities of females, it will take little time for the ‘power of no’ to evaporate. This is happening in Europe as young Muslims are taught that ‘European girls are as dirt’ and the Muslim society has learned to circumvent the European justice system and the discredited ‘culture’ norms of former Europe.
Mr. Regnerus continues with:
“In the domain of sex and relationships men will act as nobly as women collectively demand.”
Women’s demands are discredited and women are collectively rejecting all male opinion. Female loyalty to males is in question which will be reciprocated when women are in need. And thus we get an epidemic of rape of European women by immigrants who have even less respect for them than the local males.
The modern era of propaganda has broken the will of males to protect and serve women and reduced women to their basest function, a vehicle for male lust. Women are saying “Yes.” to casual sex on an individual basis. The cartel created by women and previously supported by older males has been broken. The comment does not provide a solution because women collectively cannot pressure men into bad marriages. Women acting as individuals nor collectively are not demanding a marriage commitment before sex. Women are also encouraging argumentative behaviour and they are not giving men something to respect. Well played, a woman plays the perfect angel and man leads her astray into the wicked realm of sex for which he is made to feel dreadfully guilty. By saying “Yes.”, woman is equally wicked, which makes it difficult to control the actions and behaviour of males. “Oh no! Don’t touch me there. You know it has a bad effect on me and I lose control.”
It must also be remembered that more women in the workplace leads to less well paying jobs for men, which leads to a lack of income-earning marriageable men. It is a gloomy truth that forty percent of female graduates born in 1970 are likely to enter their forties childless.
I listened to a middle-aged woman say to me: “I can manage without him” Sure she can, but this attitude makes it impossible for younger women to find slaves.